When couples first meet and they are attracted to each other, sparks fly!!!!!! There is nothing we would not do for the other. We go out of our way to do the little things seeking our potential mate's approval. We have danced like fools, spent ridiculous money on little gifts and ate out 5 out of 7 nights of the week. We even overlook our potential partner's flaws and hide our own bad and annoying habits.
A year or so roll by and what a difference. He is not holding the door for you anymore, she doesn't put on her makeup to leave the house, he wears his socks three days in a row, she forgot what a hair brush was for, he doesn't flush the toilet, she doesn't use her best perfume, so you get the picture. We just get used to each other. It is not that our partner isn't as important to us at this stage, but in the beginning we feel like we are in competition with the other potential partners out there and try our best to shine.
I propose that we owe it to each other to get back to the beginning every now and then. Make it fresh and new, start over all over again, even for one weekend out of the year. If you must to make it feel different, go incognito, role play, die your hair, what ever you need to do to change the atmosphere and make the encounter as if you were starting all over again.
Pick the Place
Where did you meet your partner, where did you give each other your undivided attention, where can you both focus on each other and not be distracted by outside influences.
- Don't take a sport's freak to a sport's bar
- You know what must be done, make a plan, pick a random date, not a birthday or an anniversary. This is strictly a date and should not be tied to an obligated date.
Setting your Mindset
Get into the mindset that you are meeting this person for the very first time. Clear your head of all negative things about the person. You don't know a thing about them at this point. This is where the role play would come in handy, make up a story line and follow the script. It will be fun, use your imagination and see what you can come up with.
Be your Best
Remember, you are meeting this guy or gal for the first time, pull out the best perfume, do your hair, put on those tight jeans or that mini skirt, listen to your rock-n-roll while your are getting ready. Feel your youth or what it was that attracted this person to you in the first place. Get a way from the every day him haw that has become repetitious and boring. You need this to be a night that both of you will remember.
Set Aside Time
Like when you first met, time did not matter, enjoy the moment, the hour, the day. Let go of everyday worries and problems. If you have kids get a sitter for the weekend, get grandma to take the kids. Take the pet's to the kennel or have a friend feed them. This time is strictly for you and your partner.
Once you have everything in place, really enjoy yourself, you can go back to the daily grind as soon as you get back home if you absolutely have to but a night or a weekend away, if you totally free your mind and be open to play, you will see that it will improve your overall relationship. Nothing worse than being in love but tired and bored in your relationship. You have the power to spice it, get back to the beginning, when it was exciting and new. Give it a shot, you may surprise yourself and your partner. Goodluck and have fun with it. Your relationship is worth it.
