Does He Deserve You?

Maybe your man loves you, but remembers when taking this test love is not the issue. You probably would love a million dollars, Denzel Washington and a flatter tummy but it doesn't mean that you deserve these things. Because who are you kidding, when was the last time you put forth the effort to do a single sit-up. You probably love the best life has to offer but when you look at the effort that you have put forth to obtain the best, something is missing; maybe Lauren Hill stole your song or your number didn't fall in the lottery.

But the truth is most of us know deep within our hearts when we are not getting what we deserve. This is when we start sending out resumes to search for a new job or buy a new product because the old one no longer meets our expectations. Yes, yes you might have loved many things but when you felt that you were not being compensated for what you felt you are worth, you moved on.

Does your man meet your emotional and physical needs? How many times have you told him what you wanted, but he gave you what he wanted you to have? Are men telling you, "You can do better or Tell your man that his is one lucky man" and insist that you take their number? Do you make financial sacrifices to be with your man? When you talk about problems in your relationship to others do they turn a deaf ear and coldly state for the 100th time "So when are you going to leave him?"

Take this quiz to determine if your man deserves you. This test will only validate what you are already thinking; very few ladies will take this test and learn what they didn't already know. Good luck!

1. If you broke up with him today what could he easily be replaced with?

1. $50.00 or any amount of money.
2. A vibrator or romance novel.
3. A good therapist because without him you feel incomplete.

2. When you do not see him for a few days how do you feel?

1. Your headache or stomach ache goes away miraculously.
2. You notice that there is less work to do around the house.
3. You snap at family and friends because your body and soul craves him.

3. He knows that you are experiencing financial difficulty because you are between jobs. He:

1. Brags about his new expensive car, golf clubs or CD player.
2. Offers his assistance only after a lecture about how he won't help you again.
3. Tells you what his expenses are, but offers to help you as much as he can.

4. After sex with him, you:

1. What sex? You can't recall the last time you were intimate.
2. Can't wait for him to go to sleep -- to finish the job yourself.
3. Your body automatically curls up next to him. You feel like the luckiest girl
in the world.

5. When you are around his friends they typically:

1. Comment on how attractive other women are in your presence.
2. Wink their eye and lick their lips when your man is not looking.
3. Ask you if you have any single friends.

6. Generally speaking when it comes your relationship with your man, your family feels:

1. You will wake up and come to your senses.
2. Uninterested, they matter-of-factly suggest that you keep dating.
3. They can't wait to plan your wedding.

7. When you are out on the town together people typically comment how:

1. They tell him how lucky he is and question how the two of you met.
2. The two of you look like brother and sister and mistakenly try to fix you up with others at the event.
3. The two of you make such a handsome, lovely couple.

8. When you discuss your relationship with your girlfriends. They:

1. Tell you that you can do much better than him.
2. Ask what happened to your old boyfriend, "whats-his-name".
3. Tell you how lucky you are and that you should clean up your act before you lose him.

9. When other men ask you out, you think about:

1. How much it would cost to move your man things.
2. What if your man finds out.
3. The audacity of him to even think that he can fill your man shoes.

10. Your man has been verbally and/or physically abusive:

1. Fairly often. But promises to change and you believe him.
2. Once, but the issue was resolved immediately.
3. Never. You argue like any couple but you can not imagine him ever hurting or degrading you.

Scoring

For each "a" give yourself 0 points; for each "b" answer give yourself 1 point; for each "c" answer give yourself 2 points. Add your score and the category that best fits your relationship.