Women all over the world are always trying to figure out how to get a good man. The truth is a man is a very simple person. He wants to be a man. He wants to be the person who does the asking, chasing, and pursuing of the woman.
We are living in modern times, but the man has not really changed at all. Some women like to do the pursuing, but the only thing the woman is going to get is a man in her bed not a life long relationship. In order for a woman to get a man's attention and keep it until he's ready for the next commitment is to keep him chasing you and wanting you. They need a challenge. If the situation is too easy, they will easily give up.
In my lifetime, I've probably had a more than 5 proposals from men and have probably broken about 20 men's hearts. Not because this was my intention but because I behaved with them. My friends would often ask “How do you get them to fall for you?” I wish my response could be “It's easy”; but it does take work to pull it off. When you begin acting like a woman should act, it becomes easy but in the beginning it is an adjustment to many women because of the independence we've gotten.
Women must always keep themselves smelling and looking her best in any occasion. She must be confident, feminine, responsive but not desperate. Make sure everyone knows you are single, available, willing to go out and in a party atmosphere to keep yourself to one group of people. Mingle and walk about the room. This will let every single man in the room get a good look at you. Make sure you do not approach the man. If you see someone you are interest in, make eye contact but let the man do the approaching.
If a friend wants to set you up on a date, make sure you advise them you are not interested in a committed relationship and you are just dating and open to friendship.
If a man calls you for a date, again be frank and open. Let them know you are not interested in a serious relationship and only wish to date, go out and have fun. Give them opportunity to back out if they are not interested
On a date, make sure you inform them you are dating other people. Be honest with every man you date. Inform them again, you are really not interested in anything serious right now because of your career and busy schedule. Emphasize the fact that you love to go out and do different things. Keep them curious and interested. Do not share too much intimate details of your past or current life. Keep the conversation focused on him. They love talking about themselves and this will give you the time to really get to know him.
Don't bring up old relationships. Don't talk about anything that is negative. Don't bring out the scrap book that is in your wallet. Don't complain about your job, co-workers or family. If he asks, keep the answers short brief and to the point without giving elaborate details. For instance, if he asks “Have you ever been in a serious relationship before?” If you've never been engaged or married say “No, not really. I've never been engaged or married.” If you have been engaged or married say “Yes, but it didn't work out and we mutually agreed to break it off”. Men don't ask these types of questions because they really want to hear about your past. This is their way of making polite conversation.
The things you talk about are what colors you like, what vacations you like, what activities you like, music, television, clothes, art, etc. Conversations should about who you are today and what you like not about your past or your future. Nobody knows what the future brings. If you are single, then anything in the past is not worth mentioning otherwise you would not be single. Any phrases that begin with “I want, Mine, My, I need” are not great. If offering a suggestion to do something “Why don' we. How do you feel if we. Would you mind etc”
If a man sends you flowers at work, wait till the end of day to call and thank them. Calling them right away will make you look anxious and desperate. Thank him for the flowers, apologize for not calling sooner due to work and then tell him it wasn't necessary for him to send flowers not only are they a waste of money because they die so quickly but people in the office may get the wrong impression and begin to talk. End with another thank you and “Hope to hear from you soon”.
well this is all great and stuff. but how do you get an ex-husband back. Especially when rhe chemistry betweent he two are still there very much so. That is my dream to be back with him again. as a married couple again
#2 by SonnyD, Jul 24, 2008
Fele: It all depends on why both of you broke up to begin with. Trust is important. If that was a factor of your divorce, no amount of attraction will correct that unless you are willing to leave the past behind you and start new. Attraction may still be there but you need to find out if he's willing to be in a committment again also. Good Luck!
