Read this for tips and advice about the top five flirting techniques. The findings from another insightful survey conducted by Wilma Proops – infamous Agony Aunt to the Stars! All Wilma’s surveys are with twenty women who have just got back from the pub.
What are the best flirting techniques? Wilma Proops asked this question of twenty women aged between 28 and 45. The women were adjudged to be expert flirters by Wilma Proops before being invited to partake in the survey. As with all her surveys, the female interviewees talked honestly and bluntly as they had all just got back from the pub where they had been plied with drinks by Wilma Proops.
With the rise in internet dating services The Art of Flirting (offline and face to face) is becoming obsolete. The aim of the survey was to rediscover the best in the flesh flirting techniques and record them and offer tips and advice on them before they are all forgotten.
Eyelash Batting and Fluttering
This technique needs to be perfected and must be practiced in front of a mirror before using it. It can be used in one to one situations, for instance over dinner or in any meeting. It can also be used when the person you are intent on flirting with (hereinafter referred to as “the target”) “happens” to catch your eye. One woman interviewed said if the fluttering is started as soon as the target makes eye contact - it can be very effective.
“By fluttering your eyelashes at this precise moment and looking slightly embarrassed and demure” she said “an aura of shy, femininity can be portrayed”.
It was thought that too much mascara rendered this technique inappropriate as it was likely to look ridiculous.
Body Language
The use of body language is a very potent technique and needs to be handled with care. Clever use of body language as a flirting technique is only discernible by the person employing it. Crude use of body language can be identify the user to all present and this can be embarrassing. Here are some tips from the women surveyed by Wilma Proops about the use of body language to flirt:
“The target should not be aware that the technique is being employed”. (Instead, the target should feel that there is a natural attraction going on).
“The trick to this technique is to mirror the body posture of the target”. (If, for instance, he leans forward so should the flirter).
“If you want to flirt with someone don't sit there with your arms crossed”. (If the target does this it is likely that your attempts at flirting will come to nothing on this occasion”.
Shared Interests
This technique demands you do some research about your intended target. What are his interests? Once you have found out you will need to either feign or manufacture an interest yourself. With the right preparation this is an excellent and effective technique. Men are easily beguiled by women who are interested in them and what they do. For instance one woman took up scuba diving to enable her to flirt with her target and he became enthralled by her novice status. While he was giving her instruction she was able to flirt with him using the techniques outlined above. Mastering this technique for her brought about three holidays (all paid for by the target) and a great hobby that she has remained interested in since ending the relationship a few years ago.
Valentine's Cards and Love Letter
There is still no better way to show a man you are interested. The sending of Valentine's card was highly recommended. A huge variety of Valentine Cards are available but the most effective, in the views of the women interviewed by Wilma Proops, were the traditional ones. Although most women chose to remain anonymous when sending, a couple of the younger ones admitted to including their names, addresses and telephone numbers. A few advised that senders should dab a sample of their perfume in the card - one warned that less is more and to ensure no ambiguous perfume stain be visible on the envelope.
Love letters were used more for chatting up targets after flirting with them had yielded some results. These could be quite blunt according to some of the women interviewed - for instance a description of what they were longing to do with the target men selected. One woman manufactured a “love voucher” and enclosed it in with a letter. She ensured that the voucher could only be redeemed by the named recipient - and strongly advised others to do the same!
General Flirtatious Behaviour
What constitutes general flirtatious behaviour was discussed at length. To eye-lash fluttering (see above) were added: Giggling, laughing at the target's jokes, asking the target's advice, falling over in front of the target, dropping objects for the target to pick up and “accidentally on purpose flashing”.
This survey does not claim to have produced an exhaustive list of Flirting Techniques. Please add any other offline flirting techniques that you have employed and any other tips or advice in the comments section below.
