Don't we wish that all relationships could be easy? That would be nice. It would be outside the norm of what we are use to in this fast paced society. Relationships that have meaning take, the dreaded word, work. We don't want to think of work when we think of our relationships. Especially not our love relationships. We want those to be easy.
If you are currently having problems in your relationship, then let me tell you where to look first. You! Look at yourself. This may seem odd, but whatever problem you have with the other person, rectify it in yourself first. Such as, I have a problem with my honey being upset a lot. When I check on the anger trying to burn inside me first, I am bound not to have such a problem with his. But when I don't check the anger, then I am bound to check my honey. You see how that works.
Let me give you another example. Suppose your love seems to talk a bit more flagrant to you in front of friends, but is very loving behind closed doors. You are hurt by this. So, your automatic reaction is to tell your love how they hurt you. What if you stepped back and looked at the way you treat your love when you talk on the phone? How do you treat your love in front of friends and family? To stay in the moment, how were you feeling before the situation even occurred? Were you already feeling pretty down?
If you step back and reassess the situation and check yourself, you may find that you don't have to check your love. Either check yourself or you will check your love. And too much criticism, condemnation and complaining and your love won't be your love anymore.
Now, don't find yourself turning the criticism inward. Once you have identified these feelings that you are having as personal, then you have power over them. Write the feeling that you are having on the side of a pencil. Do this in your minds eye. Grasp that pencil tightly and then just drop it on the floor. After you do this simple mental exercise in a few minutes to a few hours you will release that negative feeling. If you feel you want to do the exercise more than once, feel free.
This can help make your relationships easier and more pleasant. It may not fix all your ills, but I am sure it will help send you in a better direction. It's also a wonderful way for you to master yourself. You are the most important person in the world. If you are not feeling good, then how can you enjoy the world? How can you enjoy your relationships?
So, go ahead! Find more joy in your relationships. Free yourself of the negative feelings that you have held in your hand so long. Drop the pencils of hurt and pain. Love your love more than you ever have before!
