Myth 1. “There is only one, the one, for me.”
I believe that there are a few people that can make each person happy and content in a relationship, not just one. Take divorced couples for instance, when they were married they each believed that the other was the perfect partner. Many divorcees are able to move on and find another person to share their life with. The thought that only one person in this entire world has the ability to make you happy is quite scary and hopeless. Each person has the chance to meet several different people who could each be considered as “the one.”
Myth 2. “Things will get better once we are married.”
False! Marriage, as great as it is, actually adds a new level of stress to the relationship. The relationship is now classified as a marriage, with new rules and expectations from both husband and wife. Major relationship problems should be resolved or accepted before marriage.
Myth 3. “Things will get better once we have a baby.”
Wrong again! Trying to have a baby to salvage a relationship or marriage is a very bad idea. A child will test even a seemingly perfect couple's bond. The stress of a newborn can turn a troubled relationship into a destroyed one. Couples should also resolve or accept any major issues before trying to get pregnant.
Myth 4. “He/She cheated on me but promises it will never happen again.”
Only a minute margin of cheaters will not cheat on their partner again. Cheaters cheat for a reason, usually a underlying motive exists that will eventually surface all over again.
Myth 5. “He/she only abuses me when I deserve it or when I make them mad.”
Abusive relationships are unhealthy and destructive. No one deserves to be abused, physically or emotionally. An violent relationship isn't a relationship, it's a dangerous situation between two people, capable of provoking extremely negative consequences. Seek professional assistance and support from those closest to you.
Myth 6. “He/She controls me because he/she loves me.”
A controlling partner is a dangerous one. Whether your significant other tries to dictate whom you can and cannot socialize with or has complete control over every aspect of your life, it is a sign for concern. A controlling partner uses manipulation tactics in your relationship in order to suppress their own insecurities. They may be afraid to be alone, or cheated on, or some other form of uncertainty plagues them. Professional therapy may be the best choice to either resolve this situation or end it.
Myth 7. “If we had money, it would solve all of our problems.”
Just because you are fighting about money doesn't mean that money is the reason for the fight. Think about the reasons that first start to strike up the argument about money. Maybe you and your partner do not see eye to eye about top priorities or have a power struggle pertaining to your finances. Each of these situations may end with arguing about cash but started somewhere else in your relationship. Money will not solve basic relationship problems, it will just make balancing your check book and paying your bills on time a little easier.
Myth 8. “All we need is love.”
Although the thought that love is all you need for a great relationship is hopeful, it's false. A relationship takes so much more. It takes time, effort, compassion, understanding, consideration, intimacy, passion, excitement, friendship, familiarity, cooperation, attraction, etc. People who share love and nothing else divorce or split up everyday. Even though we wish it is, love isn't always enough.
