Ex Love:the Haunting Nature of Past Relationships

How many of us have heard the saying of "Let the past stay in the past"?

That's really the best thing to do when it comes to relationships. Many of us will enter a new relationship and immediately start doing the comparison things. We will compare the way the "new boyfriend/girlfriend" acts to the way our ex's have acted. There will always be some type of similarity between the present relationship and the past relationship. When you choose to end a relationship there should always be some time in between getting involved in a new relationship that will allow you to heal. Everyone will be hurt when just breaking up whether it was your decision or your ex's decision. True love takes time to heal and it will never just happen over night. Some of us feel that the best way to heal from a break-up is to have a new relationship. For some that may hold to be true, but for others it's not a healthy move to make. That's how you will start to bring up things that have happened in your past relationship.

Bringing up your past relationships will ALWAYS ruin your present relationship. For me I want to know that I'm the only one on his mind everyday. I would not want to hear him always talking about his ex and all the good times or bad times that they had. Just focus on the two of us so that we can have a better relationship than your past one was.

There are times that your past relationship was a very bad one. One of you may have cheated, lied and was just plain out a bad person. Leaving those types of relationships can have a negative affect on the way that we view other relationships. We can think that everyone is the same therefore your new love really doesn't even stand a fighting chance in the relationship. You will enter the new relationship with low expectations of where it may go. Whenever the two of your experience a disagreement you will probably find yourself bringing up all the negative things that happened in your past relationship. You'll probably even start to compare your new love to your old love and that will right away become a red flag for your new love. Within a very short period of time you will have ruined a relationship that may have actually been the right one for you.

My advice would be to start the healing process before you jump into a new relationship. This would be the way for you to focus on what is going to make you happy so that the next relationship you have you'll know how to make them happy.