How to Prepare for a First Date: Clothes and Grooming
As a singles and match-making expert, I recommend that dressing for "relationship success" is very important for a first date. After creating a connection with an individual enough such that you have planned a first date, it is important that you hold up your end of the bargain and dress as a sexually attractive person who is not cheap or easy but who is a good person with morals but also who is easy to find attractive. Is this an easy thing to do? Well, here is what I recommend. Get yourself a new outfit! Most of the time, it is the guy who pays for the first date. But that does not mean you do not need to invest in it as well. Figure a first date will on average cost a guy somewhere between $100 and $200. You should be spending a similar amount on yourself in preparation for this date. You need to go on this first date feeling like a million bucks so if you spend $100 bucks on a new outfit, put it towards a nice piece of jewelry, or just spend the money on a day at the spa making sure you are totally feeling ready for an amazing first date, then the money was well spent. Please consider it your obligation to spend it. It is only fair if the guy is spending it on you. On top of that, it will make you feel so special and ready to welcome love and respect from another, that it is important to do.
How to Act When on a First Date
The time has come. He's picked you up or you are meeting him at the location, does not matter. You sit down, probably for a pre-dinner drink, or maybe for the dinner. What is the best things to talk about? Well flirt, flirt, flirt. If he says that he is a lefty, ask him which hand he would use to grab you / hold you. (Use your imagination in responding to whatever he says!) If he is suggesting getting a bottle of wine, let him. If he asks you about your family, let him know what a wonderful time you have with them. Don't suggest that he meet them too quickly. Just be interesting / intriguing, but not TOO giving of information. Leave some mystery to yourself. Try to ask a lot of questions about HIM. Of most importance is about his family and his relationship to them, his friends and how close they are / what sort of activities they enjoy together, whether he is religious and what sort of role that plays in his life, and if he is interested in dating or finding a relationship that he can commit to.
Kiss or Not at Goodnight
I am a firm believer that it is chemistry that keeps any sort of dating / relationship going. So YES, kissing is a very important way to end a first date. If by the end of a first date you have no desire to kiss, well then you know that this was not meant to be. BUT, if you have some sort of spark going on in your gut, then by all means go for it, kiss the hell out of him. Drive yourself and him crazy with the sexual torment that you need to create to make the tension that much greater for the second date.
