What do girls look for in guys? Well they think they are getting into happiness but often living with the boyfriend proves to be more then they bargain for. Sometimes you can end up with a boyfriend that likes to paint graffiti on the walls when you though that his graffiti talent would be limited to outside walls, empty billboards and building fronts. So the two should come to an agreement about décor, furniture because know they will be sharing a living space.
One thing to look for is a level of maturity so you can discuss the color of the walls before you find yourself taking over a mural the landlord might object to. The guy may resist but then again if decisions are to be done in two, both the guy and girl should decide.
Sometimes the guy will say that all you have to do is believe in the future and not concentrate on the small details like his insulting your best friend when he does not think it was important.
2) Here if it were a minor situation, I would ignore the insult unless this affects his attitude to you. Boyfriends can be inconceivably ignorant about how they emotionally react with someone or how their behavior might be detrimental to a relationship. Then again you either tell him that quality has to go or you accept it as a character quality and live with it.
Sometimes the guy is inconsiderate when he asks a date out or when there is a special occasion she recognizes as important.
Here is where the guy can be chivalrous and offer a night out or explain to his date that he knows it's a special occasion but doesn't think they have to do anything out of the ordinary. Sometimes a thought goes a long way and would even be more appreciated than a gift given for the sake of giving something.
A guy may expect to have his girl be his servant. This may happen is situations where the girl likes a submissive role but in the long run it is better to assert yourself in a relationship.
Here it is best to define roles so that they are clear before the engagement and not while the knot is being tied. One doesn't want to find oneself in a relationship where you have to feel subservient. The scenario would work better in a master-slave
relationship.
Making sure you are not number two or that the relationship is not just something trivial is difficult to foresee. Sometimes the guy will outrightly have you see that he is going out with someone else and that is brutal. On other occasions the guy will not show many outward signs or at most a disinterest when it comes to showing affection unless he is a good actor of course.
The best thing to do is to state what you are looking for in a guy. If both of you have an open relationship allow you to date others because you are not sure where your relationship is or you are experimenting then beware that either of you is as committed as the other and those moves don't make you more loyal. You might even resent your lover. But if this was an agreement why should there be any resentment?
