Unfortunately, relationships don't come with an instructions manual but here are my top five tips guaranteed to make your relationship with your sweetheart better than ever.
Romance
Men, don't run away! I know many guys are afraid of this topic but let's be honest, it's no secret women love romance. Let's get one thing straight here first. When a woman tells you she wants you to be more romantic, she isn't asking you to put on a fake Italian accent and serenade her with a mushy love song. Although it would probably make her laugh hysterically, that's not exactly what she's looking for. The problem is, too many people believe in that stereotype of romance. The truth is, it doesn't have to be that complicated or embarassing for that matter. It could be something as simple as a sincere compliment, an offer to do the dishes, a quick phone call from work to tell her you love her. Don't overdue it though, you don't want to creep her out! All it takes is a few simple gestures to let her know you care. Ladies, don't think you're off the hook here. You don't have to sit around and wait for your boyfriend or hubby to do all the work in this department and then complain if they don't. If you have to make the first move-do it! You could be surprised at what could snowball from there.
Explore Each Other's Interests
One of the biggest misconceptions about being in a relationship is the belief that you must share the same interests as your partner for the relationship to work, not true! If you're constantly looking for someone who shares the exact same interests as you do, you mine as well be dating yourself! Part of being in a relationship is learning from each other and discovering new interests. You could suddenly reaize that an activity you used to hate is actually a blast or discover something new that you never would have dreamed of trying before. This isn't to say that you should bungie jump off the Empire State building just because your partner wants to but you will both be alot happier if you explore both of your interests together.
Pick Your Battles
You've heard this saying before, but how many people actually follow it? My guess is not very many. It can be hard to do when your partner has certain habits that make you want to reach over and strangle them but to avoid the effort you just nag at them instead. Clever, but wrong move. I'm not saying you should go back to the first option and strangle them, it's alot more simple than that and it won't involve you doing time. Here's the thing, There isn't one person on earth that doesn't have atleast one annoying habit, even if you think you don't, trust me, you do. Should you bite your husband's head off because he forgot to put the toilet seat down? Should you yell at your girlfriend because she decided to put pink scented candles in your bathroom? My answer is no. Don't let the little things put a strain on the relationship. Just ask yourself before you fly off the handle, is it really worth it?
Talk to Each Other
I know alot of men are intimidated by that whole "Let's share our feelings" bit but you're a couple, talking with one another should be enjoyable. You may think you already know each other but you'd be surprised at the things you might learn about one another just by having a few conversations here and there. However, it doesn't have to be like pulling teeth. Talk with one another over a subtle activity you both enjoy, for example, a card game, anything to make it less intimidating.
Show Affection
Don't be afraid to show each other affection, even in public. Something as simple as holding hands or a peck on the cheek can make all the difference. People can always spot a couple in love!
Relationships Aren't Supposed to Be Easy
. There will be happy times and hard times but through those hard times, there are always things you can do to make them just alittle bit easier so put these tips to good use!
I love this piece and agree with it wholeheartedly. Sometime, I think my wife and I are from completely different planets, but we always love each other. Still we could (at times) use a bit of help showing it, and this is a good piece to help us learn to show that love. Thank you for sharing it with the rest of us.
Damon
#3 by FAN, Feb 29, 2008
IS QUITE INTERESTING
#4 by Yvonne, Jun 4, 2008
my boyfriend and me don't talk to each other anymore and we are still together what should i do?
#5 by Lucky2Surf, Jun 26, 2008
I think this might help me and my boyfriend realize that we don't have to share much interests that are the same just to make this relationship work, We both started talking about how we don't have much in common but still love each other I kinda thought that we could try to do at least one or two activities I like or he likes just to see if that something we can do together. I'm glad that these tips helped me realize things i didn't really pay much attention to.
#6 by nadia, Jul 6, 2008
i love my husband but sometimes i miss my x boyfriend,specially when i\'m sad or feel lonly....what to do
#7 by help me, Jul 29, 2008
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 yrs now and for the first time I feel like Im losing him. I try talking to him about how I feel but its like he doesnt care enough to listen. I mean its like he doesnt with to be around me anymore. Hes so distance from him the last several days and its scaring me. what should I do? should i sit him down and talk to him again so should I let whatever he bugging work out on its own. Hes isnt touched me since last thursday. He said hes tired but he hasnt falling out of love with me, so thats good right? Someone please help. I cant lose him. He and our two boys are my life and mean everything to me.
#8 by kulet, Sep 16, 2008
Same as u # 7 i have a 5yrs relationship with my boyfrend we are so very happy and love each other, in one time I realize that i want to find my self, I met a guy who always knock in my heart, in that time i need a comfort zone,we love each other but i still love my boyfrend so one nyt when we out together, the new one said that i love you and i want to have relationship, you must need to choose one, its either new one or old, i choose the new one because when i am with him i feel eternity. he is alcoholic, smoker,chikboy and lhat n yata ng bisyo nasa knya but bulag n bulag tlaga ako ewan ko ba? sobra lkas ng dating nya saken, ngawa kung iwan ung aking mtgal na boyfrend nsaktan ko sya tlga kc he loves me very much kaya lng iba ang pinili ko,thanks God kc nagkita kmi kgbi that was Sept.15, 08 in a bar and then we are so very happy at the same time mhal dw nya ko sobra selos pagminsan,tpos sbi nya pagdting dw nya e ppkasalan nya ko, ngjoke lng un cguro, and then nauwi ang uspan sa pagyayaya dun sa motel which is not the place to be, and pagkatpos nun sinasanla sken ung cp nya at motor pra lng mkapagdrugs at take note di ako payag so nagalit sken feeling ko tlaga is pinagplit nya ko sa drugs, so nakipagbreak cya sbi nya d dw kmi ttagal pag ganun ako na di ko cya sinosoporthan sa mga bisyo nya, so indi ko kaya ang ganung life style, gusto nya hiwlay n kmi so ok pumayag ako, buti nlng at nlman ko na di tlaga nya ko mhal.that\'s it. so back to my 5yrs relationship na alm ko nmn tlaga na mhl n mhl ako...lucky p din ako kc nging bf ko cya nging msaya nmn ako khit pano.. wat is you coment??
