What exactly is the meaning of “from the heart”? There is “giving” and there is “giving from the heart”, there is “helping” and there is “helping from the heart”. Sometimes we tell ourselves, after all this giving and helping so much, how come I'm still stuck in this bind? “After all I have done to him, why did this happen to me?” Have you ever asked yourself those questions? Plenty of times I suppose.
So what's the difference when they said “from the heart”?
From the heart simply means unconditional & unconditional simply means one thing. It means not expecting anything in return. Giving for the pure sake of giving, helping for the pure pleasure of helping and loving for the pure happiness of loving.
There are actually many types of helping (giving):
- Helping (giving) with strings attached (with agenda)
- Helping (giving) because we can't say “NO” (or we don't know how to)
- Helping (giving) to alleviate guilt and loneliness
- Helping (giving) from the heart
With Strings Attached
The word “help” is not even appropriate here. It should be rephrased instead as investment. We give (or help if we would like to call it) in hope of getting back a bigger future returns. This is usually done in the business world where we normally sweeten the pot in exchange for future business opportunities. Most of the time we offer this not because “we want to”, but more on “we need to” in order to stay in the thick of the competition.. The off shoot here is when the giver (helper) realized that they have nothing more to gain from this particular person, then the giving (helping) stops altogether.
Can't Say “No”
A lot of times, these people give (help) with a heavy heart. They are the ones who are forced to do it in fear of what others will think, feel & say about them. How miserable indeed for them! These are the types who felt they owed everybody an obligation & by refusing they will be considered an unworthy friend (relative) & will be cast off in the social circle he belongs in. They are basically “trying to please everybody” except themselves (and always end up hating every single situation of it). These types of people tend to be swarmed by human-parasites & users.
To Alleviate Loneliness and Guilt
What is success without someone to share it with?? Loneliness & guilt in their own sense can do wonders in it's own unique way because it can bring out the generous side of a person. How many people give (help) because they felt an aching emptiness in life?? How many people give (help) because they felt guilty that they are bountiful & others are not? How many people gives because of SYMPATHY?? Compared with A & B, these are a lot closer in spirit in as far as the word FROM THE HEART is concerned..These types even find pleasure in giving (helping) because it helps ease a certain discomfort in them which they themselves don't realize.
From the Heart
So what makes this so different from the rest?? This is only an opinion so you might or might not agree with me. Giving (helping) from the heart means “You have a choice not to give (help), but decided to”, it means “giving (helping) is not an obligation, but you love to”, it means “there is no aching space in your heart nor is it brought out of sympathy, but you're actually doing it for the pure pleasure and fun of giving (helping)”. That's what the word “from the heart” means. These people follow the dictate of their hearts, they will refuse when situations is inappropriate but when they give, it's purely unconditional.
Of course when we are at the receiving end, everything comes out the same after all blessings come in different packages. The bottom line is not to be abusive and remember to be appreciative for every each one that comes our way…As for the giver..Well, Just keep on giving. You'll know it's from the heart when there is immense pleasure you feel after doing it.
