How to get past grudges. I am the worst at holding grudges. I have held grudges for years and have let the grudges stay because I never thought that there was any reason why I should let go of them. Especially the silly ones that still make me laugh. Like the fish from ten years ago that broke my favorite fishing lure. I can’t change that anymore. I got my revenge, I ate the fish. But I still hold that grudge. But there are the grudges that for whatever reason I have held on to so long that I just can’t let go. The fish grudge is just to get a really good giggle at this point.
First is realizing that the grudges that you hold may not be just holding you back. If you have friends or family that knows about your grudges and have a fear that if they tell you that they talked to a person that you hold a grudge against that you would over react. Or that you would hold a grudge against them. Wouldn’t that be just great. Does that sting? The thought that people could be doing something that you don’t agree with just because of the fact that you have a personal grudge.
Second is to forgive the person that begrudged you in the first place. You can never get past the grudge if you can’t forgive the things of the past. What would happen if you were to see that person on the street after you forgave them? You might find that they didn’t know that they even knew what they had done to make you angry. I believe that that is what happens in most cases.
Lastly forgive yourself for allowing yourself to carry the grudges that have damaged the way that you perceive the world and the actions and comments that are put to you. When you feel that life is getting to you you can’t always run. Because you can’t run you have developed the instant grudge taking and holding and that is how you get through life without getting hurt or shielding yourself from getting hurt. There will always be pain. You either grow from it or you don’t and you get over it. Don’t hold on to the hurt. That is holding grudges.
