Handling a cheating lover is a complex affair for most.
There are many questions to be answered before you are at the stage of handling a cheating lover.
Mainly questions that you ask yourself shortly after the anger has subsided, like
What did I do wrong?
Why does he/she prefer that over me?
I thought we were OK
What did I do wrong?
When did I start doing things wrong?
If I had not done things wrong would this have happened?
Note the recurring theme of WHAT DID I DO WRONG'
After realising that in fact you have done nothing wrong then it is time to examine the options open to you.
The options open to you are as follows:-
Take them back because it was you're fault?
Take them back because you know it was you who drove them away and you still really love them and can find it in you're heart to forgive them.
Pretend that it never happened and walk out of the shower like bobby did in Dallas all those years ago and just carry on as normal?
The short answer in my opinion to all these options is NO. Not maybe! Not perhaps, Not ever.
What you do is grow from the experience and realize that you were, too loving, too giving and too trusting.
Get rid of everything possible that reminds you of them (except the kids unless they remind you of them too much then arrange to have them look after them and have them visit on your terms) refuse to let them back into you're life for they have broken the one thing on this earth that is sacred to you, your TRUST.
When you take up with a partner the whole process is one of give and take;
By having an affair you're partner has taken too much.
By all means let him/her grovel and beg to the world; let them swear that it was a one off thing that it will never happen again; let them crawl through burning embers to show how much they still love and need you.
But through all of this remember that they cheated and tell them where to go when they are finished burning in hell.
As a small after thought video the groveling apology and post it on you-tube or just E.mail it to all you're mutual friends.
But whatever you do please DON'T TAKE THEM BACK.
