Upon speaking to many of the career oriented women, I find many of their husbands are either stay at home house husbands, work part-time or work at a more miniscule job than their wives. I'm not opposed to women being the bread winners of the family but among these women, it appeared they all had similar issues with their husbands.
- They are lazy and don't do anything in the house and expect the wife to do the house chores as well as work 70 hours a week
- They have too much time on their hands and spend too much money on frivolous items
- They don't understand why on our time off all we want to do is rest and don't want to go out
- They call more than 5 times a day when they should gather their thoughts and call once or only call if it's an emergency
- They are not interested in sex any more
If you look at these issues, they almost sound like a working husband's complaints about his wife who stays at home. Have our roles been switched? Have the husbands taken on the wives role and visa versa?
As one of these women, I sympathize because these issues will only get worse because the men still don't get the fact that the marriage is a partnership and not a he/she combat zone. Often I've explained to my husband “If I was the one who remained at home and you were working, I would make sure the house was spotless, clothes were washed, food cooked, shopping completed and have a glass of wine waiting for you when you got home. I would do this because if you were making the money than this would be my job. What difference does it make if it's you at home versus me? You can well imagine his response “Because you are a woman”.
The fact is, it is easy for women to say this but men don't seem to take this well. In fact, their manhood is diminished. This will eventually lead to no urge for sex and eventually trickles down to other things they really didn't feel like doing in the first place; what they deem to be women chores. For instance, cooking, sweeping, washing dishes, washing clothes, mopping etc. The other stuff, you'll notice they will take care of like car maintenance, walking the dog, taking the garbage out etc.
If this is true in your case, you need to encourage the man to get a job so they can feel like men again. Don't belittle them instead if you prefer them staying at home, uplift him and give him compliments on the work he does at home. Eventually, he will do the other stuff you want him to do without you asking him to do it.
