There is nothing worse then being in limbo not knowing which direction your relationship is taking. Maybe the warning signs of total disaster is already there. The question is, how do you know for sure that it's over? You don't want to break it all off, if something is there, and you can't keep spending your life in limbo, so what should you do? If you've every been in this situation, then you've had at least one person say "just follow your heart", as if your heart is a second person.
Sometimes it's best to just take a step back, and relieve the good times, and the bad in your mind. Then you can weigh the difference, and see if it's love, lust or just routine, that keeps you trying to patch things up.
The first warning sign that your perfect relationship is going sour has to do with attitude. What has the other person been saying to you? Sometimes, it's hard to read the signs when you love someone. Maybe in your heart you know it's over, but your just not willing to accept the fact. Just coming out and saying "it's over" is hard for most people to do. What they say, and what they mean might be two totally different things. Here are some examples of "letting the other person down easy" that don't always work.
- "I think we should take a break for a while, and see what happens". What this really means is, I'm wanting to see other people.
- "If you love it, set it free, and if it was meant to be, then we'll come back together". Saying "if I can't find anything better then you I'll be back" does not't sound as sweet, but means the same thing.
- "We need to see other people" is a polite way of saying "I want to see someone, just not you".
- "It's not you, it's me". This is a nice way to say " I want more then you have to offer".
- "I will always love you", really means " I love you, but I'm not in love with you".
Any person that you have shared your heart and soul with deserves to know the truth. If you loved them, you wouldn't't want to hurt them. But, being mislead causes more pain then knowing the truth. If you feel like something is missing, then it is. You should approach the subject with your partner, and not during a fight.
Picking a fight in order to get out of a relationship is disrespectful, and immature. Instead, wait until a more private, quite moment to talk about issues that you find potentially damaging to your relationship. If the other person chooses not to listen to your opinions and feeling, then you'll know just how much they care.
How you should deal with a break up. After you've heard the lame excuse, and the " I'll always love you" what should you do? First off, do not cry in front of them. Only two things can happen when start crying. Either they are going to feel pity for you, and comfort date you for a few weeks until things get really bad, or your going to give them an ego boost.
Second, do not call them for any reason. If they call you, don't answer every call, and act happy when you do talk to them. Third, do not start stalking them, or snooping on them. For crying out loud, do you really care what their doing? Instead, jump back on the single horse, and have the time of your life.
Remember, your free to date, party, and whatever else you want to do, so take advantage of it.
