Have you ever been stuck in a situation where you like a girl so much, but out of idiocy, you seemed to have taken a crap on your standing in her eyes?
An example would be a guy liking a girl so much that he constantly says “hi” to her and is overly available to the point where the girl is more annoyed than interested. At this point, the guy is left with two options: fix the situation or give up on the girl.
Considering that 99% of guys refuse to give up on a girl they really like just because the girl doesn't seem to be interested means that they desperately are searching for a way to redeem themselves to the girl.
Here are a few tips on how to boost your “awesomeness” to a girl that you made yourself look stupid to:
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Play Hard to Get
As difficult as it seems to stop talking to a girl that you like, it is necessary to force HER to start trying to impress YOU. This is a very cliche tip, but I'm offering it from a different perspective.
Consider that you are the one that always has to start the conversation with the girl and not the other way around. One would think that after about 10 conversations straight without the girl saying “hi” FIRST, it seems like the guy is doing all the work and the girl isn't interested. To fix this, you need to “want it without wanting it.” You have to only talk to the girl when it's necessary.
If you're in high school and you share a class with this girl, only talk to her if you're working on an assignment in a group or something. By dropping most conversation with the girl, this puts you in the driver's seat in a way. Not only does this give her a chance to see what life is like without you, but it gives you time to reinvent yourself by following the next step.
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Start Working Out (If You Haven't Already)
Exercise is the greatest activity you can take up for a few reasons: you make yourself more physically fit, physically attractive, and in position to take up a sport. If you take good care of your body, you'll see benefits in all areas of your life. You'll be more confident in yourself, less nervous in general, and fearless when the time comes to ask the girl out.
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Get Rid of the Dependency on the Girl for Happiness
Getting back to the theme of “wanting without wanting,” it is important to make sure that you train your mind to be happy with yourself. In a way, you have to enjoy BEING ALONE not for the loner aspect, but for the self-reflection aspect. You do not need anyone else to be happy.
Once you shrug of this dependency on girl success to be happy, you will have more girl success. It's sort of a sick inverse proportion that's present in love life. The more you want things, the less of it you get. But the less you feel you need something, the more of it you get.
In conclusion, girls are attracted to guys that are confident, physically fit, and content with themselves. Even though you might have pushed a girl away by doing something annoying to her or talking to much, there is always a way out of it. Once she sees how much you've changed and how confident you are in yourself, she'll be saying “hi” to YOU.
