Falling in love is the most wonderful experience but there are risks attached. So what can you do if things go wrong and you end up with a broken heart?
Here are a few guidelines to help you through the initial trauma and put you on the path to a sound recovery.
Cry.
This is therapeutic and not to be confused with wailing in self pity. It is a natural reaction when going through a period of mourning - and if you have just lost your nearest and dearest then you have been bereaved. Love yourself.
Try to imagine how you would help a friend in your situation and treat yourself accordingly. If retail therapy works for you then buy yourself something that you have always wanted. If you have a secret dream then indulge it. This isn't the time for self denial. Keep busy
It will direct your thoughts away from yourself. But guard against overtiredness which might lead you into depression. Discipline your thoughts.
You can only think of one thing at a time, so choose not to dwell on your loss. This will be next to impossible at first but be firm and you will see a steady emotional recovery. Don't get too introspective.
The time will come for a review but you'll do a better job later on. Don't blame yourself or labour under a victim mentality. Look up some old friends.
You have probably neglected some of them for a while. Concentrate on the ones who are single and enjoying life. They will give you some good tips. Give yourself time.
It is a fact that time heals - even broken hearts. Use the time well, take up a new hobby or revive an old one. Don't get into a rut, try to do something different every day. Look outside, look up, look forward.
But don't jump into another relationship too quickly. It isn't fair to yourself or anyone else.
Remember that sadder can also be wiser. If you take this advice there will be no recriminations or bitterness. You will be able to treasure the good times in your memory and eventually move on to better things.
