Have you ever tried talking to your man and felt like you were talking to a brick wall? Sure you have. The reason is a fundamental one the goes back as far as Adam and Eve, Mars, Venus and Jupiter.
Once you know the key to communicating with men, you will kick yourself for wasting all your precious breath for years. It's really quite simple.
Get to the Point
See? Wasn't I clear? That is how you will have the most success with any man with whom you are trying to have a conversation. Of course, this does not count when flirting, flirting requires coyness and humor, and that's another article. But for now suffice it to say when speaking with a man. You have to get to the point. Fast.There is a main difference in thought processes between women and men. If you have a son, notice the way he tells you about his day's events. Little Timmy might come home and say, “Mom, Charlie fell off his bike today!! His scar is huge!” whereas, if you have a daughter, she might say something like, “Mom, on my way home, after I went to the library, I walked past the bakery and as soon as I was about to bite my fresh chocolate chip cookie, I heard a loud crash. Charlie had fallen off his bike and he has a huge scar!”Same story, different way of communicating. When talking to a man, he needs just the fact's ma'am. Don't get bogged down in details.Say Exactly What you Mean
A man is not going to try to read your mind. I know that's a tough pill to swallow, but trust me, that is something us ladies have to accept. Most men will take you at your word. They don't have time for word games. If a man asks you out and you say you are busy in some odd attempt to seem unavailable and therefore desirable, your man is not going to think that deeply about it. He'll just think you're busy ( because that IS what you said) and ask someone else. It's that simple. Also, if you are mad, and he asks what's wrong, don't say “fine” when you aren't fine. If you don't want to talk, say, “I don't want to talk right now.” He is sure to more readily accept that than have you not mean what you say and hope he figures out that you aren't really “fine”. Not to mention it's a waste of time. Say what you Have Say in 11 Words or Less
Now I heard this somewhere, I think on tv, but gosh darn it if it didn't work when I tried it on a few guys….Men filter out what we say ladies!!, I'm sure you have figured that out by now. So if we say what we mean, get to the point and say it in 11 words or less, we are sure to communicate with ease!! Try it. Even if it doesn't work, you haven't lost anything, besides, he probably wasn't listening anyway.
