Fifteen minutes is not a long time to assess whether someone likes you or not, but if you are instinctive like me, you can sense almost within the first five minutes how that date is going to turn out, or whether you wish to prolong it. However, for those who need clearer signals, there are four things which show that the other person likes you.
- They smile a lot when they talk to you. When we like someone it just gives us a warm, glowing feeling of happiness and we simply want to giggle or smile like teenagers. Everything looks good and sounds good, no matter how trivial it is. The smiles come not just through the moment, but through thoughts of the potential of what is possible between the couple from that moment onwards. So if the person cannot stop smiling, despite perhaps feeling nervous, it is a fair bet that they like you more than they might care to admit!
- They are very expressive towards you. They will try everything to be as close to you as possible, to touch your hand, if possible, on the merest pretext, and to engage eye contact or align with you in every way. But seeking to sidle up close and touch you is the clearest indication that they would like more of you.
- They try to mirror your behaviour. Whatever you do which they can mimic, even without thinking, they will do it to completely align with you and make you feel more comfortable. So if you rest your chin in your hands, for example, they are likely to do that too without even thinking about it. The main aim is to heighten your feeling of comfort and help you to warm towards them so mirroring activities is very important to achieve this, to make you feel that you are among friends, at least.
- Finally, they seem happy and contented and want to prolong the meeting as much as possible by making plans to do more things on the date.
For example, I went on a date recently which was only supposed to be for "a drink" to see how we feel about each other. Yet within 10 minutes of meeting he was asking if I would also like to have lunch, leaning as close to me as possible when he asked it, and smiling broadly in anticipation.
The only trouble was that I was not as keen so I did not mirror his actions by moving any closer to him, neither was my smile as appreciative. I stayed firmly on my side, showed my appreciation for his offer with a sweet but detached smile and politely declined.
By my actions I was showing that it wasn't mutual and I made some excuse about having to be somewhere else shortly after the meeting and left sooner than I had planned. He was obviously disappointed but at least we both knew where we stood.
