How many of you guys out there have found a girl that you want to ask out on a date but you don't have any money? You don't want the girl to think your cheap if you ask her out, then can't do anything or go anywhere. What do you do? The following are some suggestions that you may find helpful in these situations.
Taking The Stress Out.
First, you need to know the area that you live in, and what there is to do on a date. Are there things that can be done on a date for free or almost free? There is always something that you can find to do on a date that doesn't cost an arm and a leg. This allows you to plan the date before you ask, and hopefully decrease your stress level before the date, especially those first dates. Look for places like museums, or other exhibits that are free to almost free for your date. Know something about the place that you will take your date. Find out some humorous or interesting little known fact to add to your conversation. This will give the sense that you are interested in what you are doing and sharing it with your date. If you are not interested don't try to fake it, because this type of behavior can leave a bad impression upon your date. How about walks in the park or along a beach or waters edge if the day is nice? If it is a little nippy take along something warm to drink. If you can, find out something that she is particularly interested in, then see if you can do something around that theme. The main thing is to know before you go. It could be very embarrassing to get somewhere and not have enough money to pay for what you wanted to do.
Lead Not Follow
Ok, you've got it all planned for the first date, now what? Ask the girl out. Let her know if she needs to wear something warm on the date. When you pick her up don't ask her what she would like to do, but do let her know what you have planned if you didn't when you ask her out. She may be as nervous as you are, and this can help break the ice for this date. If she is the type to say that's not what I want to do, then let her suggest something but keep in mind what you can and can't do. If it is something you can't do then, let her know that you would love to but your funds are funny right now. If she wants to help with the cost, then let her. You don't always have to be the one to pay. A lot of women today are ok with helping with the cost of a date.
Knowing what you can and can't afford to do when you ask a girl out on a date will definitely help you to feel more comfortable. If you feel more comfortable this will help her to feel more comfortable with the date. Most guys feel that they have to spend the money to have a good time on a date, but in reality you may not get to know the girl as well as you would on a less expensive date. Don't tell them you don't want to do something because it cost to much as they may feel that you are cheap. It is better if you let them know you are low on funds.
