When it comes to choosing a partner, one usually has a list of requirement that must be met; someone kind, charming, funny, etc. And more often that not, you would usually attach an age limit too, for example- no more than two yours younger or at least five years older. It would actually seem that age play a big role when it comes down to choosing someone you want to be with. Why do we do this though? Should not the chemistry that you have with that person be enough? If he is everything that you are looking for but he does not fit the age requirement should you give it a miss?
Most people consider it the norm to have the guy older than the girl. If he were born in the same year or older, then it is all fine and dandy but what if he were much older? What if the gap is 15 years or more? Would is still be acceptable then? Apparently so. We hear loads of stories about older men who get hitched too much younger women and while society may find it to be gossip fodder for a while, it usually blows over quickly. The women may get called a "gold-digger" and the guy a "dirty old man" but at the end of the day, who really cares about what other people have to say? It is not fair to stereotype them just because others in the past had fit that description. They could actually be in love and found in each other what they were searching for.
What a young girl like her see in an older man like him? Plenty. Maybe the guys her age are immature and she is looking for something more fulfilling and secure. What does he see in her? Well, besides the obvious, maybe she makes him feel young and full of life. There are plenty of reasons why people decide to spend the rest of their lives together and just because we do not understand it, does not mean that it is wrong.
As mentioned before, the older man younger women scenario is pretty common and accepted but what if the roles were reversed? The much younger man and his much older female partner is something that is not easily digested. The reason behind this is probably the whole ‘men age better than women' crap. Society is not kind to women, particularly when it comes to getting older. While men can still be eligible bachelors at any ripe old age, women are spinsters and old maids. Women are under pressure to look good and get married so as to not be left ‘on the shelf'. People would reason that the younger man is with his older woman just for her money because what else is there; she is ancient. Well, her about her fabulous personality? Or maybe it is because he finds an older woman more intellectually stimulating, mature and infinitely more fascinating than the clingy and dependent women his age? Could that be a factor? Probably, but it would not be as interesting to gossip about. Would it?
Finding someone that is perfect for yourself is hard enough without having to take the views of society into account. Do you really care about what the women who lives down the road thinks of you? So what if the people you bum into every once in a while have something to say about your relationship? At the end of the day, it is your life so live it how you want to. Let people talk about you and your ‘rich old bag' or you and your ‘toy boy'- it is your happiness at stake so do what you want with your life. Society can just stuff it.
