Love is a tricky little bugger, some people are able to find it while it eludes so many others. There are times when it seems like that pure, unconditional love doesn't exist, but I know it doesn't. In fact I have seen it in family members and friends of the family It's just rare these days. Love is a really odd and random thing. It's too hard to define and everyone has a different meaning about what it means to love someone.
Many people think Unconditional love no longer exists. and honestly does it?Too often there are conditions for loving someone, and if one thing is off, someone has one flaw automatically they get tossed back to the sea so to speak. Isn't love supposed to be loving someone no matter what? Loving their good qualities, but also loving their flaws? Today we expect everything and everyone to be perfect the way we want them to be, but honestly it's never that way.
There are times when you find someone who is everything you look for and you do love their flaws and that's unconditional love. To often people lose out on love and something wonderful simply because they can't love unconditionally. Loving that much in a sense makes one vulnerable and who wants to be vulnerable right? I know a perfect, unconditional love exists and I'm not talking about God's love, but a love from God. I've seen it in many different couples. You could see the love in their eyes as they look at each other even after 30 years or more. You can see how they act, treat and talk to each other that no matter what they will forever love that person.
There are times when women (and some men) don't think this unconditional love exists, but only in fairy tales.. You know Prince charming coming to rescue Princess Auoroa (sleeping beauty) from the curse kind of love. Disney is great for unconditional love. I mean Jasmine fell in love with a man pretending to be something he wasn't, Prince Eric loved a woman who was part fish. Why should girls want to find love like that?!
Love doesn't play games of any sort, it doesn't require anything from the other person. Carrie mentioned that Love doesn't play the "if you loved me" game, and she's right. If you truly unconditionally loved someone you wouldn't use that line on them or test their love for you. I think unconditional love contains unconditional Trust also. Love doesn't demand things or expect things from one another. When you are in love, unconditionally, you do things say things, without expecting anything in return. A friend of mine hurt me, yet I still love him (friend-wise), and nothing can change that. I know people that would completely cut you off if you hurt them just once. Love unconditionally also entails forgiveness, if you can't forgive how can you properly love?
Love doesn't expect you to change. Someone who has that pure love wouldn't say "you need to change this or that" but say "I love you just the way you are." Love unconditionally, pure, innocent, isn't just love of the good things, but love of the flaws as well. A few of us girls the other night compared guys, yet it was asked what are we comparing them too. And really do looks and outer appearances become a pre-cusor to love. When did someone's face become the pre-requisite for us to love them instead of their personality and who they really are? I mean have you ever thought "What is He (or She) doing with Her (or Him)? or think that a friend could do "better." What is better? Other than having that unconditional love.
Often there are things a person will do that makes us not want to be with them anymore. Oddly enough it's something far less than cheating, lying, stealing, or doing drugs or something else illegal. Some people end relationships because the sex one night was bad or because they didn't read that often. These shouldn't be conditions for love, it's bigger than that! What ever happened to love conquering all?
I guess the question is, for those us looking and have expectations for love, is it eluding us because many others don't have those ideas? Are we missing out on something because we are waiting for something else? Love isn't something we "settle" for, but fight for, and to keep, but then again can one really lose pure unconditional love? So another major question is...Is unconditional love dead and gone?
