Is She Cheating?

Women are squirming in their seats as men read this article. How dare a sister divulge our secrets to the male species. I understand your disappointment with this article given that men having been cheating for years. But so have women, and I think it's time to even the score. We aren't any better than men just stimulated by different human emotions. I am sorry but I have decided to turn in my sister-hood badge of honor for the sake of improving male and female relationships. Ladies I ask for your support and forgiveness in this endeavor.

Fellas I know you are not big on introductions so, saddle up. I am going to take you for a ride.

1. Before we move forward let's go back to the very beginning of your relationship. The day you first saw her. Let's go down memory lane for a moment. Remember her smile, the way she looked at you and your heart melted; the first time you went out on a date together and how her beauty literally took your breath away? Good. Do you remember her body, the way she smelled, how soft she felt, how good she tasted and you thought you were the luckiest man in the world? Are you still with me? Good. Now I want you to think about all of the men she encounters daily who would love to be in your shoes; the men who constantly badger her for her phone number, blow kisses to her at stop lights, bring her lunch and remind her of how lovely she is everyday just for one moment. Remember how bad you wanted her and what it felt like when you finally got her? Okay. Times up. Now you ask yourself, whether you treat the special woman in your life in such a manner that would inspire, motivate and give her the God-given strength to turn all of these men away -- daily. If you can't answer this question with confidence, if she isn't cheating, in the future she just may.
2. Are you cheating? People usually get what they give in life, this is the law of reciprocity. If you are stepping out, you probably think you are getting away with something, but most women can not only tell if you are cheating, we can tell when you have masturbated. Some clues include the male's erection is not as firm, his orgasms are not as intense and sometimes he has difficulty reaching an orgasm altogether. Too many men still slip and call us someone else's name. This is unbelievable. Trust me, she can smell the milk on your whiskers, tiger. Some women choose to stay in such a relationship for economic reasons or she has her needs met else where to accommodate your short comings. But if you are not cheating and you suspect that she is keep reading.
3. Has she been asking you for time, money or gifts and all-of-a-sudden she doesn't ask you anymore? Uh huh. Do you think her needs disappeared? It's okay, take your time answering. Well if the television she asked you for has appeared and she has not gotten a promotion on her job, quite frankly you should be worried. If she has stopped asking for things but her needs have not been met, you still have a chance to inspire her to remain in the relationship and loyal. Now don't assume that I am talking about a gold-digger taking your money. Tsk tsk. I am talking about the times you spend with your friends and not her; the movie, play, park, vacation etc.. that she has been dying to go with you. We, women are pretty emotional, we are just as impressed with a dandelion as we are a rose. Tell us how much you love us and how beautiful we are, and a sprinkle of foreplay we are addicted and hooked to you for as long as you will have us.
4. During sex can you tell if she is coming -- or going away from you emotionally? Is she giving you tips on how to get it right sexually and you have been together for over 18 months? Has she not only stopped bugging you for sex, but is very content and happy with her decision? When you make love to her with your heart, body and soul do you feel that she is all yours? If you have not been true, open and honest in the relationship your intuition will be off. But if you are tuned in you will know if she has turned off her passion for you.
5. If she has not always matched her panties and bra, is she suddenly interested in wearing sexy lingerie? Has she begun to wear make-up and didn't in the past? Has she drastically changed her style of dress or hanging with new friends? This doesn't mean that she is cheating, however I am telling you from the perspective of a woman, you need to take notice. Evaluate and decide if you still fit into her new life, new identity and new self. These could be indicators that she is making a major change in her life that may not include you.
6. She has stopped arguing with you. She no longer begs you to help with the children, take out the garbage or help around the house. The things you use to do to piss her off she barely even notices now. Again, we women are very emotional. As long as you can extract some type of emotional response from her, you are still in the house. Most women don't cheat because of a man's irresistible physical appearance (some do), women are attracted to men who make them feel good inside out. So if she is no longer ranting and raving, she has probably begun to distance her feelings from the relationship. This does not mean that she is cheating, just vulnerable to be emotionally aroused by someone else.
7. You hear rumors that she is cheating. Where there is smoke there is fire. When you go to work, she is no where to be found. Has she been shopping more than usual? Is her behavior unpredictable? Does she hang with a male friend more than every other month? Is there a guy that she constantly talks about? To know if she is cheating, you must know when she is faithful. If you have not invested enough time into really understanding her lifestyle and values, there is a high probability that you will erroneously accuse her of cheating when she is not.
8. Lastly, does her family and friends treat you differently? Have you been treating her like a queen and her closest friends can barely look you in the eyes? Do you feel awkward around some of her male associates? Maybe she is not interested them, but you can vibe his attraction to her. Let your presence be known as a protector and a man who is in love with his lady. Other men can sense when something is missing in a woman's relationship with a man. Give her what she needs to ensure that even if she takes his phone number, she knows that what she has with you is worth tossing it in the garbage.