How to know if your boyfriend is Prince Charming or Prince Cheater.
When he is somewhere without you, he doesn't answer your calls.
Many women make excuses for their boyfriends not answering their calls. They want to believe that it was too loud at the bar, that their phone was on silent or that it was the biggest football game of the year and they couldn't miss a play. Although those are all legit excuses, it is not that hard for your man to answer his phone and tell you that he can't hear you, or that he will call you back during half time. When men are seeing other women, they simply won't answer your call in fear that they will be caught. Chances are the other women your man is seeing, are also his “girlfriends," and in that case… do you ever notice him ignoring someone's call when he is with you? What it comes down to is paying attention to the little details and outsmarting him.
He makes excuses that he is working long hours or traveling for work.
Many men like to feel powerful in the fact that they are the ones making a lot of money to support you. They may claim that their job is “so stressful” and they can't help but work long hours to get everything done. While many men do sometimes work long hours, if you suspect your man is seeing other women, this is something you need to check in to. On top of that, If your man suddenly is taking “business trips” on the weekends, that is another thing to look in to. Don't let your man's words trick you, him telling you that he's sorry for working long hours but he wants to give you everything you deserve is just a trick to make you feel like he is the prince charming you want him to be.
He increases his number of “guys" nights.
Every guy needs his night with the guys, but if suddenly… guys night turns into an all night, every night thing… be worried, be very worried. Unless it is football season, chances are he won't be with his guys every night of the week… and even during football season, only on game nights. This is another scheme he will try to pull to make you think he's not doing anything wrong by hanging out with his buddies. Chances are, his buddies have women at home too, why wouldn't you all go out sometimes instead of just the guys? Again, don't let his excuses and plans fool you, outsmart the fool.
He doesn't introduce you to family and close friends.
If your man has more than one girl that is his “girlfriend," chances are he won't bring you home to his parents or introduce you to his close friends. The reason for this is because his parents may have already been introduced to another girlfriend of his, and same with his friends. His family would look down upon him if he had more than one girlfriend and if his friends knew he had more than one girlfriend, they might let it slip and the player's reputation would be ruined. If you're not being introduced to your man's family and friends, say something about it. Don't just sit there and act like it's okay, because it's not. If he is really interested in you, he should be more than willing to introduce you to the other important people in his life.
He calls you by the wrong name, or only calls you baby.
If your man is juggling more than one woman, the chances of him calling you by a different girl's name are pretty good. If this does happen, you should ask him who the girl is, referring to the name he just called you, this puts him on the spot and you will be able to tell if he is lying or not when he says she's just a friend. Another thing that you should pay attention to is if your man is only calling you baby, sweetie, or hun, and never using your real name. Men that do this, often tend to be smart enough to call every girl they are with baby, sweetie, or hun, so that they won't call any of their girls by the wrong name. They think they are being smart by not using your name, or any names for that matter, be smarter by telling them to use your name more often.
My man is 12yrs older than me. He somtimes talk to me like a child. One moment he'll say I'll do anything for you the next minute he mad cause he's spending money. He changes everyday he'll buy something I'll smile I'll say "You didn't have to do this for me". And he'll say "As long as you happy I'm happy". that night we will be so happy but the next morning all hell breaks lose he'll say "I'm spending too much money". when I try to play with him you play too much you this and you that don't get me wrong he never calls me out my name. But he's like to take things too serious when it him spending all his money not me.
#2 by nicki, Mar 9, 2008
im so bloody fed up, my friend as been seeing this man and he seems really nice at first and i got to know him for 4yrs.
But i have noticed that he as changed alot.
The thing is i found out that he as been cheating on here at least 3/4 times.
Also he as lied so many times i have lost count.
I have found out many of things he as done of which my friend doesnt know waht he has been doing.
I have heard rumours from different people about what he as been getting up to behind his girlfriends back and its hurting me as he thinks ge can get away with it. It is very hard as its my friend im looking out for, and i don\'t want her geting hurt.
Please can someone talk to me as i don\'t know what to do in a situation like this ?
There are a few people who could get hurt, and i want to keep my friendship with my friend, but i cant help thinkinghe will think he as got away with the cheating, and quite possibly do it again.
Can someone talk to me please ???
#3 by could it be any more clear?, Jun 6, 2008
My boyfriend of eight years has always treated me like im nobody. In eight year I dont feel any closer to him then I did in the beging. Im forty four years old and I would like to know what I am to him. He make me feel that Im not even worthy of wearing is ring.(that he has never bought for me.) He also except me to wait on him hand in foot, while he wont even help with thing like fixing my car when it needs it. Meanwhile his is kept running up to par. He never take me any where. We are never seen togather. Please someone out there talk to me about this.
#4 by bluebird, Aug 15, 2008
Unless the guy is someone YOU are just playing with or you just think of him as a casual sex partner, then you need to make your rules far more mandatory and firm.
Do NOT have sex with him in the first month of dating.
Before you do have sex, tell him you both need to get STD tests and WAIT FOR THE RESULTS. You may be clear but if you both do it it won't seem like you're just trying to hang HIM.
Do NOT have sex with him until he's introduced you to his family and friends. Period. If you have great 'chemistry' and really want to jump his bones, then figure out ways to spend time with him where you both aren't alone together for too long a time.
As modern as we all are there are some things that guys will still want in their hearts when it comes to wether they get serious with a woman or not. Now, if you don't care about HIM and he's a one night stand, none of this applies. But if you've been out with him and really like him and would like for things to get serious, you need to act old-fashioned, but still be sure to let him know you're attracted to him, find him attractive etc...
And btw, if you want to get married don't get involved in any long term 'boyfriend' relationships for years on end. By the end of the first year you BOTH should know if you are ready to make the big committment. If not, move on.
