Maybe you can't quite put your finger on it, but something has changed in your relationship - and not exactly for the better. Most signs of an affair are not flashing neon. They are subtle and there if you choose to see them. If you suspect your husband or boyfriend is cheating, here are a few ways to confirm your suspicions.
His Routine Changes
Does he work overtime where he never did before? Perhaps, even more telling, is if he doesn't have any extra jingle in his pocket for all the extra time he is spending at work. Going to the gym, shopping, or volunteering with gusto all of a sudden are other signs he may be engaging in extracurricular activities.
Strange Phone Calls/Texts
A string of hang-ups, the Caller ID being erased with new regularity or a new sneakiness with his cell phone may be clues your man is being unfaithful. If he starts hiding the phone bill or opts for the redacted version without the call history, he may be trying to cover his tracks. Text messages arriving after 8PM for most of us are not work-related, no matter what he says.
More Attention to Appearance
You may be accustomed to seeing your man in his sweats and frat shirt from college with the beer stains on it, but chances are his side dish isn't. A man who suddenly wears fancy duds to run errands when cutoffs used to do may have a stop on his list you don't know about. The same can be said for renewed attention to his hair and physique.
Changes in the Bedroom
That new technique may not be the result of something he read in Dear Abby. Also, some men who cheat actually have more sex with their main dish to try to mask his dalliances. Others may have sex as infrequently as possible when they have another well to tap.
Trust your intuition. If he is capable of having an affair, confronting him about your suspicions will not likely produce a truthful response. Gather the evidence you need in the form of phone bills, credit card bills, and ask around. Many men's friends are aware of affair long before their wives or girlfriends are. Just be prepared for the answer you may not want to hear.
