We, as ordinary human beings are bound to have affection and fall in love with somebody else. As we go falling in love, we sometimes are in doubt and probably would ask questions such as: Is he/she the right guy/girl for me? Is he/she responsible enough? Will we be able to spend our lives together forever and be able to surpass all the challenges that life will give? In general: “Is he/she worth dating or marrying?
I can really remember the lyrics of a certain song which goes: “It's so sad to belong to someone else, when the right one comes along!” This is indeed true to cases in which the person is already married to somebody when he/she found somebody else. So sad, right?
Another case would be that the courtship or marriage will not prosper for several reasons which would emerge latter. It is so unfair that one will just realize that he/she is marrying somebody who is the total opposite of his/her expectations.
Because of the aforementioned examples, we really have to make sure that we are into the right road, when talking about the one we love. There are actually tips on how to find out if your partner is worth dating or marrying.
The first tip would be excitement. Does he/she still excite you? Your potential partner should be someone you look forward to be with forever and be your partner for the lifetime course of marriage. If you think he/she is not the one, then don't waste your time on him/her. Move on and let a new prospect come in to you heart.
The second tip would be tolerance. You must have to answer the question: “Is he/she tolerating your family and friends?” He/she must have to be close and will share the same beliefs and practices with your family. Despite differences in many things, he/she must always be tolerant and smile always even on tough and annoying situations. It's nice to hear that he/she will become close to your family even if you are not yet married. If the contrary will happen, this will be very problematic for the future of your relationship especially when you will be staying in your parents' house after the wedding.
The next one is adventure. Your partner must have to be adventurous and open to new things. He/she must have to try eating new foods and use things which are unfamiliar to him/her if he/she stays with your family. In other words, he/she must have to adapt with the environment he/she is in. For example, if your partner wants extreme sports or ballet dancing, if they agree and don't try to come up with alternative ideas and try to put you off then this is a good sign you may not be right for each other.
Another tip would be the answer to the question: “Do you miss them when you go away?” Missing a person is really a good sign and shows that you are meant for each other. So, if you miss him/her, be glad! But if you don't, then it's not showing any good effect on your relationship. If you are not missing him/her, it's clear now that you don't love her, or he/she is not that important to you. So what are you waiting for? Stay away from him/her and find someone around.
The next thing that you must have to consider is coming together in one single decision. You must have to agree in most of the things (because it is impossible for the two of you to agree in all things at all time). For example, you have to agree with him/her as to you will be having kids or not, which will be latter followed with the question “How many kids will you have in the near future?” It is really vital that you agree on this thing because this is basic and it is really important for you to agree so as not to have conflict as time goes by. Because there is a possibility that she wants to have kids and you don't. Or it can be that you want to have two kids while he/she wants to have many kids. Really, you must have to be curious enough on this matter and make sure that you know what your potential partner wants before getting seriously involved. This will soon surely save both of you.
Then you must make sure that you can talk to him/her about anything. There should be no secrets, no dead ends, no dull moments, no silence because of conflict. Because there is a possibility that what interests you would not be interesting to him/her. If you can't talk about things or feel uncomfortable talking about experiences and happenings, then you must have to decide and make sure that you are making the right thing regarding this matter.
Still another determinant is that you have the same thoughts on money. It is evident that many couples nowadays broke up because of financial reasons. They argued as to they will buy appliances or not or what ingredients to buy for their meals. You must have to make sure that you agree on everything about money or this will be chaotic in the near future.
The last but not the least is faithfulness. Are you sure that he/she is faithful to you? Find out the answer on this question. Although, this question is not that easy to answer considering that this needs a lot of specialized skills, tactics and will consume a lot of time. So, what are you waiting for? If you are not sure, ensure!
