Let's face it, love and infatuation can be very confusing, especially when you're young. These days, it seems like all people want is to have someone to hold, someone to love them. Even children in elementary school claim to be falling victim to Cupid's arrow. People are getting together all the time but if you ask them about their relationship status (ie. are you boyfriend and girlfriend yet?), some of them will stop in their tracks and not know themselves where they are actually at in their friendship/relationship.
One cause of that obviously could be lack of communication. If one does not talk to the other person involved about what they want or where they are, things can get pretty sticky. Such confusion can also lead to a hurting heart.
Perhaps this will help.
Every relationship has to start somewhere and that somewhere is awareness. Awareness is when two specific people start noticing each other or first meet each other, whether you're a kid sitting in class staring at that cute boy in the third row or you're an adult waiting in line with the cute guy in Starbucks. At this point, people develop "crushes" and the men may try to impress by dressing nice or "cool" and may develop an ego of sorts or just speak highly and confidently about themselves. Many women at this stage will try to impress by concentrating on their looks by wearing more make-up, doing their hair nicer, wearing revealing clothes and bathing suits, anything to please the eye of the person they want to attract. This is the stage where people often lose themselves and become someone else, someone they might not end up liking.
Once the couple feels attracted to each other, contact begins and sometimes there will be more surface contact than actual verbal communication. This can be a deal-breaker in some friendships and relationships. During this stage, the people attempt to become closer by doing simple gestures like leaning closer, touching arms and hands. Complements and listening can be a major component at this time to keep the attraction strong and the friendship together.
If the couple can get past that stage, they normally communicate about going steady, meaning only having eyes for each other. This is reciprocity or the love stage. At this point, the couple should have height levels of caring, communication and affection between the two people involved. While love itself is a difficult thing to actually define, if two people can pass the previous road blocks and stay strong up to this point, there should be a spark of something which the couple themselves may not be able to describe.
