We, men are sometimes hesitant to approach the ladies especially when we are not confident enough or we are conscious on the way we look. Because we want to make sure that they will be impressed by the way we look, the way we dress and the way we act in front of them. In fact, we sometimes find ways on how to avoid talking to them especially when we have feelings for them. But why do we have to do this? Why do we have to avoid them when we can extend a hand and exchange smiles with them or probably offer a bottled drink?
It is really a chaotic experience for guys when we wanted to approach a lady but failed to do so because we are just so shy or we don't know how to start the conversation, what to say and what to do in front of her.
It is not enough to just show a smile or a nod when we first meet a lady. We must have to show respect and caress to them. Respect in the sense that most of the women will be impressed with us if we are respectful and gentlemen. We must have to show to them that we are sincere and we really mean to be their friends. And we must have to think that first impression lasts. If they think that we are not sincere in the things we do, then, it will be our loss!
The thing is we must not look on one side only. We must have to look on all sides and make sure that we will be able to capture their attention and that we will become interesting to them. The fact is that most of us are nervous and are not able to perform well in front of them. What I mean is that we go blank and say nothing in front of them. When we think of it, women assume that men are just making conversations with them and nothing more, nothing follows. They might also think that we really are not interested on them.
Most men say that approaching a woman can be hard enough. But the truth is that keeping the conversation going is even harder. Often, we go blank, don't know what to say and become pale. But there are actually ways on how to surpass this problem.
The very first thing that we have to do is we have to avoid committing conversation mistakes. It is evident that when we, men, are with our friends, we tend to have a good time. This means that everything is coupled with a joke which will soon lead to laughter. But when we, men, are with women, we become more serious and begin taking the situation very seriously. We often pretend that we are responsible. We even look stupid and will cause us to lose our creativity and become silent again and boring. So it is important to sustain the energy and the feeling so that it will not be obvious that we are just pretending and that we are trying to do things even if we only seldom do it or not do it at all. And here's the thing! If we intend to court women, we must have to sustain the flirtation. This will create impression on them and that they will think that we are not just playing around.
The next thing that we have to focus is the kind of relationship that we have with women. It is true that our behavior is adversely affected by the environmental factors which include the kind of people we mingle with everyday. We may be afraid of saying things which would create bad impression on the part of the women. Being untrue can cause our creativity and flirtation to end which would result to the fact that we are “boring men.” When we are nervous while talking to them, they will not think of what to respond to what say. Having a good and interesting conversation is hard to achieve, especially if we can't find a way to amuse them or to make the conversation interesting. We must have to know what their likes are and we will use the information in forming our ways and techniques to make them feel comfortable while they are with us. At all time, keep a light hearted attitude and have a good time. Try not to worry so much that you don't know what to say. You just have to be with yourself and everything will follow.
