It seems that with all the developing technology at our disposal, long distance relationships shouldn't be that difficult to manage.
But are they? and why?
It basically depends on people's personalities and how bad you want it to work. For some people a long distance relationship is the perfect romantic type of relationship.
If you are a person with a very demanding job, who doesn't have the time to keep a normal relationship, if you have too many things to take care of , but is still looking for someone to love them and care for them and have an interest in them, this is the perfect relationship.
You see each other eventually. Every time you are together, you have a wonderful honeymoon because you both embrace what little time you get to spend together and don't want to waste it on stupid arguments or fights.
However in order for this relationship to work, both of you need to be on the same channel, on the same frequency, and have the same expectations.
This of course will develop later on into another type of relationship and could end up in marriage even.
This is when it starts getting a little more difficult because you never had a chance to see the “other side” of your loved one. Your first fights will arise over stupid things like forgetting to put the cap on the toothpaste. These fights are normal because you never had a chance to get to know each other on a different level.
It will take time to get to know each other and accept each other's flaws. But you can make it work. Even though you are apart most of the time, let your loved one how important it is to be honest with each other. Have real conversations about topics that are important in your life.
On the other hand, if you are a “high maintenance” person, who needs constant attention, constant demonstrations of love, if you want your significant other to be a part of every aspect of your life, this is NOT the relationship for you.
It will become a very hard relationship to manage. Odds are you will end up hating each other and hurting each other in ways you never meant it.
Geography makes it impossible to accommodate your necessities.
Be smart and know yourself first before you commit to a long distance relationship that could end up hurting you and losing a person that might be worth having as a part of your life in some other aspect.
Who knows? Things might eventually change and what kept you from entering a relationship in the first place may change and you can have a really good change at it once it's been resolved.
