“They say love is blind'
I say it is not;
You say love survives;
I say it does not;
He says he loves me;
I say he does not.”
Who says that one must continue a relationship, whether friendship or engagement, that is devoid of selflessness and humility?
Who believes that a relationship is worth a treasure, if it is not funded on real love?
Who illusions that a relationship which does not live with the principle of commitment, grows?
A Sick Relationship Survives
I do NOT! It is mere stupidity to believe and illusion that a sick relationship can survive and live a ninth life.
It must be buried. It must be buried so that its soul rests with the souls of all those that have wandered carelessly on earth. It must be buried so that it can fulfill its mission to be fruitful and useful. At least as a fertilizer.
Friendship between two opposite sex, between male and male, female and female or whatever it is, must be strong. There is, there was and there will never be non-fluctuating relationship.
For both involved in a relationship are imperfect. Thus, imperfections lead to conflicts, arguments, deficiencies and disappointments. For once a man expects only the best from the other, he has failed in his expectations.
For taking himself as an example, he can never be what others expect him to be; he can never achieve his expectations of perfection from others.
Hence, his belief that a relationship cannot crumble shall shamble. So the two people involved in the relationship must be strong and be prepared. For their relationship is sure to fluctuate due to human weaknesses and frailties.
Tender Care, Gentleness and Nourishment
Like a seedling that grows and becomes sturdy and huge because of tender care, gentleness and nourishment, so is friendship. Friendship, though fluctuating, can bloom into a fragrant plant that can mushroom amidst turmoil and upheavals. Friendship that is nourished by humility and watered by selflessness is sure to open its leaves, lengthen its branches and pray to God.
Friends who eat their pride say to themselves that they have opened the gates to understanding. Willingness to accept mistakes and flaws gives the aggrieved an opportunity to redeem himself from the pain and insult that had been buried in one's soul.
Admission of one's guilt may even give the hurt strength to pull up the aggressor from where he has fallen. This being the case, the former may find his way towards positive change: a change in self-perception or self-worth.
Selfishness vs. Selflessness
Selfishness is prison; selflessness is freedom. Leeches stick into the body of a person and sips blood for itself. It feeds itself to spend a longer time or a lifetime ahead while it ends the life of the person.
It is so with selfishness. A selfish friend kills another. He takes away from the partner the drive to achieve, the desire to search for life's meanings, the freedom to decide for himself and the courage to face the future.
A selfish friend imprisons another behind the bars of bitterness, narrowness of mind, regrets, of hopelessness.
As a selfish person empowers himself, he impoverishes another. He loves to be loved, yet forgets to love. He makes himself rich by making his partner poor in love. He receives; he never gives.
These being clear, one must admit that friendship that is borne out of humility and selflessness can lead to a treasury of sharing and mutual respect.
Commitment
No dictionary can define real love for real love is defined only by the purity of intentions and prudence of the heart. One cannot see rightly only through the eyes, but through the heart. It is only when the happiness of a partner is sought for that real love is real.
A good building is tested on its life span through its foundation. If materials used in its foundation are clear-cut feigned by low quality or even fake mixtures of chemicals, then the building collapses.
So is friendship.
A friendship to last must be founded on the goal of making the partner happy, not by making the relationship a source of happiness. Its goal must be to bring out the best in each other. One is happy when the other is happy.
The greatest fear of either one is commitment. Yet, what else is most felt than that which is an offshoot of the total love of the total person towards a total goal for a total life for only one.
Friendship is commitment. Friendship is loyalty. Friendship is security. Friendship is sacrifice. It is trust not only in others but in himself.
Believing that one wants what he truly wants is trust and commitment. Believing that whom he loves is whom he truly loves is trust and commitment. Praying, that what one has is for last, is commitment.
Doing what one believes in, wants and prays for is real commitment.
These are love.
Nevertheless… ours is not. And we must bury this friendship for there has never been friendship. There was only time; there was only space. There was oblivion; there was nothing.
And I DO NOT believe and illusion that such sick relationship can survive. It is dying. And I have to kill it before it pollutes whatever good and beautiful is left.
It must be buried so that it can fulfill its mission of becoming fruitful and useful: at least as a fertilizer.
Whoever says that ours, devoid of selflessness and humility, must be kept on… is stupid.
Whoever believes that our relationship not founded on real love is worth a treasure…. Is more stupid.
Whoever illusions that our relationship which does not live on the principle of commitment grows… is dead.
So…?
“They say love is blind'
I say it is not;
You say love survives;
I say it does not;
He says you love me;
You say….”
