Dear Touched By An Angel,
What a problem you created by giving in to that fantasy. I can't judge you for doing what you wanted to do to make your sex life more interesting, but inviting someone else into your bed could never be a good thing. What did you think would happen? If it wasn't you that caught feeling, it could have been him. Like you said, now he is constantly asking to recreate the act. You need to reevaluate the situation and talk to your husband. Let him know how you feel and deal with it. Either you can find a way to get back to the relationship you have or you need to move on and follow your desires. Its up to you. I will say that if you and husband ever get past this, maybe you guys should just stick to dress up.
Dear LoveNotes,
I haven't had a boyfriend for a while now, and I'm not sure why. Everyone says I'm cool, funny and outgoing. I play video games, sports, and do things that boys think girls would never do (like paintballing in the woods or bungee jumping over and over again).
All my guy friends think I'm awesome, and I do get compliments on my looks as well. I'm not a tomboy, I wear nice clothes and some makeup, but for some reason, whenever I get a crush on a guy, he says it would be "weird" because I'm a "really good friend."
What am I doing wrong? I love who I am and so do boys. So why don't they think I could be "girlfriend material"?
Boyfriendless in connecticut, Connecticut
Dear Boyfriendless in Connecticut
It may be that "guys" see you as one of them. And because of it, they don't consider you in a romantic way. Therefore, it's time to emphasize your feminine side and present yourself in a different light. This may mean temporarily downplaying your involvement in boys' sports and paintball games, and amping up your "girlishness." Give it a try and see what happens. Just remember don't lose who you are. At the end of the day, you want a man who loves you and wants to be you for who you are and not who you can pretend to be. There is a nice blend and when you find it, the right man will find you.
“LoveNotes” is a column for entertainment purposes only and all opinions in this column are the opinions of the author.
