Lovers or Friends

There are a lot of people today who from being friends crosses the line to being lovers. We usually like stories like these and often say it's a love made in heaven. Well, that is friendship between male and female, not to mention those of other gender. There are instances when the woman is the one who realized first the need to cross the line so she shows signs of it to the point of becoming flirtatious to some extent. If the guy recognizes it, then they could end up being together given that the guy feels the same but only having difficulty showing it. As what we always say “no guts, no glory” so in this case the women having the guts to show signs, at the end receives what she wanted. But what of those who don't have the guts even just to look at the guy through his eyes? What would happen to them? What could have been the reason for such hesitation? Can something be done about it?

A lady would usually want the man to pursue them and not the other way around. For them the issue would be, it's quite an insult to her part if she did the courting. Though some have guts enough to do it still it's consider quite immoral to be so open about it. Well, that is what I think about it. Flirting can be tolerated to some extent but not to the point of people losing respect. But unfortunately there are individuals belonging to the male gender that do not have the balls to approach a girl or tell here he likes her, not because he is really afraid to do so but because of the fear of being turned down. That is really a shame but it usually happen. They would prefer going out with friends making jokes of everything than being dumped literally.

Some would even allow the moment to pass without doing something because of that fear, even if he is not sure if the lady doesn't like him. They just kind of assume. Just like those times when they assume that girl being friendly to them means she is in love with him. Arrogant aren't they? So in situation like this, woman who got more guts do the move. Sometimes it's pathetic because just like the male gender they are not sure about the feeling of the guy, but they have more guts than them so they go for it. In this situation, there could be two results, maybe the guy like her so when she do the move first she kind of making it easier for him so off they go and enter into a relationship. But what if the guy don't like the girl at first but because of her flirtation he kind of just go with flow, beside the girl clad herself as an easy catch. The girl may not know it, but she is close to getting her hurt broken the moment the guy got bored with her. So what should it be then?

In the above situation only one thing is clear, when we do something, we gamble. We gamble when we decide to stick in one company. We gamble when we decided to trust someone, and much more we gamble when we let our heart out in the open. The results would be varied but one thing is clear whatever we will experience as an outcome wouldn't be possible if we haven't gamble on to these things. Whether the woman or man make the first move both take a gamble. Gamble of entering into the relationship where you can never be sure of the outcome. For those who started out friends and wanted to cross the line, more would be at risk, if things won't work out well for them, the friendship and their supposedly love for each other. With these in mind those who are already friends would have difficulty crossing the line and in the end suffer.

In other words crossing the boundaries of love and friendship depends on the people involve, and it requires a lot of courage to do it, especially for those who really value the friendship they have. Fears arise from a lot of factors but the bottom line of it is that they just don't want to loss any so they play it safe. But this is what I can say, if you want to be happy, gamble a little, it would help if you learn to take a gamble, you will never know, what if at the end of all losses you will experience you will stumble on something much more important than winning.