Love is one of the most fundamental and basic of human needs. As the Beatles said; “ all we need is love”. Without it we are doomed to be alone and miserable. But how many of us put other things in life before our love? How much time do you spend on your partner compared to your job? Your friends? The housework? If your relationship is more important to you than these things why do you allow yourself to invest less time into it? We all do this; many times I have neglected spending time with boyfriend to spend time working. As a result, I become too tired and irritable to spend enjoyable, quality time with him when I've finished. But realistically, we need to work, we need to do housework and we need to maintain relationships with other people. So here are my tips to keep your loved one feeling special when your time and mind are elsewhere.
Make Time for Each Other
This is the most fundamental thing you can do to keep your relationship on track. Set aside an evening or two a week that you dedicate to spending time together. If you live together get out of the house to remove yourself from any distractions that may be there. Remember when you were first going out and you used to go out on dates, just the two of you and talk for hours on end? Try to re-create that magic.
Remember That You Love Each Other
When you're tired, stressed and feel as if one more sentence of polite conversation is just too much effort do you find yourself venting your frustrations on the person closest to you? We expect our lovers to deal with all our faults and neuroses and love us anyway; and they do. This does not make it pleasant for them and does not mean that it does not damage your relationship. If you simply cannot help yourself, make sure you make up for it afterwards with an apology, a cup of tea and some big cuddles (nudity optional).
Let Things Go
All couples argue and it's inevitable that some of your arguments will be pretty pointless; in these situations it's important to swallow your pride. One person has to be the one to make the first move towards reconciliation. Do you want to be one of those couples who spend three days not talking because of the state of the washing up? If you do feel that you are having to do an unfair amount of backing down, talk it through after reconciliation not before; you're much more likely to be listened to.
Overall, the best advice I can give is to make sure that you are appreciating your partner. Remind yourself why you love them and tell them everyday and you will both be happier.
