Making That First Impression

All humans alike strive one way or the other to be "liked" by their peers. This applies even more when it comes to dating.

In today's world, changes take place quite rapidly. To the point that once you have finally "settled" in, and adjusted to a "new trend", there comes a new one to replace such, making the one in hand virtually "obsolete".

This rapid changing world has forced one of, if not the oldest ritual in human history , i.e. the "mating ritual" to be lunged onto cyber space. Hundreds, if not thousands of websites for its purpose can be found along our path on the superhighway.

No matter what walks of life or what may be your lifestyle, you can rest assured that there is a "dating" website available to suit your mating needs.

I decided to embark on a journey to discover just how well this new form of matchmaking is relating to today's world. If allowed, I would like to share with you here today, results of my observations and some of my findings.

I entered the realm of several online dating mediums and proceeded to read through hundreds after hundreds of personal portrait details. Some were from the North, others from the South, East, West and everywhere in between.

I discovered a unique pattern, I can best describe as "homogenized." I discovered keywords, literally found in 85% of the cases. Such as Romantic, Sincere, "Sensitive" ..one of my favorites! I literally became quite confused at a given moment, for I found it difficult differentiating one profile from the other.

The fact that the majority of these individuals failed to include a picture of themselves, made it even harder for me to categorize. Adding to the "insult" , these so called portraits, profiles bearing no picture of the subject, in some cases, included a comment recommending that the "interested" party "ask" for their picture.

It was not very long before I became completely apathetic with the lack of originality found within these cyber walls. It made me wonder why evidently, no one had anything to say about themselves worth reading?

As complex as humans may be, none of it found evident within these descriptions of themselves. All filled with these pre-chosen words, safely picked from a drop-down menu. Promoting a promise surely hard to fulfill in the long-run.

All trying their utmost, yet carefully portray this one "first facade", attempting to make that first great impression!

To this I say:

If we succeed in giving our very best "first impression," in actuality what we are doing is buying a one-way ticket to disillusion and disappointment which will inevitably take place, somewhere along the way.

I for one approach it quite differently. My "Evil Twin" is in complete charge on the very first date! I take pride in ensuring they get first hand look, and taste of my "Chucky" side.

I then make a "career" out of ensuring they get VIP first glance of the early morning, mundane-looking, hair's a mess, grumpy, "not morning person," me! One cup of coffee and they might get lucky and get to hear me say good morning.

If they somehow manage to overcome these initial hurdles, then they have earned the right to stay for the "Sweet Ride."

It is my firm believe that putting initially our "worst foot forward", does nothing more than ensure this: Anything following and beyond that introduction can be nothing but a welcomed pleasant surprise.

To all out there attempting to find love via these cyber mediums, I give you this advice: Reference some books, ask a writer to write it for you. But do please write something original that denotes you and only you!

After all no one, remember this, no one but you can be YOU

Good luck to all. May you find the happiness you seek!