A partner cannot share the heavy load on your shoulder, he/she should not be the "other" in your relationship. You came home with problems and hoping that your partner would listen. Instead of listening to what you had to say, he/she would think that you have made a big deal out of it. The following phrases might be familiar to you (applies to either or both sexes):
• Is your period coming soon honey? It must have been the hormones.
• Honey, before you say anything, I just want you to know that I also had a bad day!
• Ah hah, ah hah, ah hah, sweetie it is late I think we better eat!
• If you have work problems, save them until we have time to talk about them. This is not a right time.
• Sex will take care of your problem!
• You are overreacted, it is just part of life, deal with it!
• Don't be a baby, fix it!
• Why don't you get a good night sleep because tomorrow will be a new day!
• Take it easy, it is just a job!
• You always complain too much!
• You have a problem and you just have to take it out on me!
• Looks like you had a bad day, I better stay away from you!
There are several kinds of poor listeners. One kind of partner was so insensitive that he/she cannot even able to detect there was something wrong with you through your stressful look. Others might counter-attack you when he/she has a chance. Some might even make a joke out of your problem. There is also kind of partner that would change subject whenever he/she could sniff your trouble from mile away. The last but not least is the kind that would completely ignore you.
The bottom line is when you have a problem, if your partner is such a poor listener, telling him/her your trouble is a waste of time. The better way to take the weight of your shoulder is to learn how to deal with them on your own. You could use meditation, yoga, or breathing exercise. Another solution is you both need to talk to a psychologist. If these solutions also do not work then the only way to take care of the situation is might as well just walk out of the relationship as soon as you can.
