Never depart without getting peoples names:
That day someone strange to you called you by your name, how did you feel? Surprised, excited, wondering how popular you are, took the person no more as an alien, welcomed that person, Right? What of the other day someone you just met, talk and almost parted, asked for your name? For me, I truly felt and said to myself “this person views me with high esteem, he is looking for my name? “I reciprocated it with showing some affection towards that person. Never depart without getting peoples names. A man's name is more important to him than the name of his country or tribe. Mr. New York is no name. Any nickname is no name. Always do your best to call people by the names. Another question: “that day you called someone you expected to known your name while he turned round to say “do I know you?” How did you feel? Disappointed! It is one thing to ask people of their name yet it is another thing to remember. Never forget peoples name and if you do so, don't let them know. If someone calls you by your name, and that persons name is unknown to you, hide it from that person and later find a means of getting the name.
Go with a smile:
Ever saw someone greet you will smiles? How did you feel; welcomed. The very first criterion for a great first impression is to smile - your facial appearance. Truly your beauty, hairstyle etc matters a lot but your smiles matters most. People view smiles as a call for friendship and those who smile are seen as approachable, uneasily offended, happy etc all of which are characters people admire and greatly wish to emulate.
Avoid arguments:
The best way to win on argument is to avoid it. Arguments create enmity, opposition, disagreements and in most cases, both parties never agree nor accept that they have lost. Most times, the effects of arguments go a long way to fuel crisis. Anyone you argue with will not really take it friendly with you same way as you will not take it friendly with such a one. Nobody believes he is wrong nor will ever do so. For the sake of nobility, always avoid argument, agree you are wrong and you will instantly gain friendship and a good impression, which is what you need, for yourself.
Give honest compliments:
Never let anything you admire about someone goes unannounced to the person. Be it a hairstyle, cloth, shoe, jewelry, way of walking, account etc. such compliments makes people notice you and see you as their friend. People love those who show interest on their deeds. They view such people with love for caring and seeing them that important to admire.
Avoid Critics of others:
Always avoid critics. Even the worst criminals don't believe they were rightly put in jail. Never tell a man he is wrong. Never tell a man that what he did is meant for the garbage. Let me ask you a question. “Would you had loved anyone who tell you all these?” To be sincere, the answer on my part is No. Don't do to others what you won't really feel good about if it were done to you. Criticism is deed to be avoided. Many great men have forced into suicide due to criticism. Don't plan being a murderer.
Talk about your failures:
Don't go on ranting about how you succeeded in doing this and that. The truth about people is that they don't feel good hearing you talk about your success. Your success makes them feel as if they have achieved nothing. They may feel as if you are a boaster. They may also get bored. Talk about your failures. How you stupidly lost a man. How you lost your in a large city. How ….. You failed. Your audience feels better when they play the part of a sympathetic listener. They will pity you. They will listen to you. You are creating a lasting impression.
Show interest when others talk:
Be a good listener. People love listeners than talkers. The person you listen to loves you than those you speak to. When someone is talking, even though he interrupted you listen attentively and don't interrupt. Ask people about themselves. You feel fine talking about yourself to others. Others feel fine talking to you about themselves. They intend to create an impression on you about their personality. Give them the go ahead. Give them only the ear and get the best impression offer able.
Say evil about no one:
Say bad things concerning anyone. If you are asked about anyone, say all the good you know about that person but, say no evil. Avoid the bad parts. People will get sympathetic with the person you intent to slander. They will carry their love from you and place it on the lowly esteemed. Avoid saying evil about anyone. If the information you give tend to be false that is if the people are unsure you are saying the truth, they will view you as a liar and blackmailer and Never forget liars, gossipers and blackmailer are not people that others really intend to go along with.
