Love is so beautiful. I think that most people would agree. I am coming from no different angle with this. I just want to talk about love. When you feel love, it is the most intoxicating feeling. You know what I mean?
When I started feeling love for myself and everyone, then I was able to accept love from others. It is not that we don't have love in our lives. Not for most of us anyhow. It is that we do not know how to receive the love that is being given. Really, this was my first question to God. Lord, teach me how to love. How do I love myself and others? I hope that the answer that I got may help you.
Love yourself first. Sounds selfish, doesn't it? Well, it is. We are a truly selfish people. I know that some ears may be burning right now. The first law of nature is self preservation. So do you think that you are exempt? No. You must take care of all of your needs first. I even go as far as saying take care of some of your wants. This type of love is selfless. Because now that you are filled up with love, then you have more love to share with others.
Let me explain. When you wake in the morning, then you wash yourself and take care of your nourishment. If you are a mom, you know you must do this first or you may never get to it after getting the children together. This is where I am coming from. When you are all taken care of, then you feel really good about giving. It is hard to give when you feel unfulfilled. Now here is the kicker you have to give to feel fulfilled. Wow, take care of myself first and give at the same time. How do I do it?
Can you give and take care of yourself at the same time? Yes, a resounding yes! You can only see others through your own eyes. There is no other way. When you are doing for yourself and handling your needs, then you are saying, "I am worthy and I deserve the best." Now, your vision for everyone else has been set up. The way you feel about yourself, is how you feel about others. There is no other way. So, now that you feel worthy and deserving, you can give joyfully to others, because you feel that they deserve to feel the same way you do.
Allow me to put that last paragraph into a picture. When you feel bad or "down and out," you may say harsh things. You may ignore people or give people nasty looks. You feel bad, so you send out your "you should feel bad too" vibe. When you feel good, then you do the complete opposite. You smile at people. You say nice things and you are very aware and attentive to your surroundings. You can easily try this out any day of your life and see that it is true.
So, go ahead and love yourself. Find yourself deserving. Don't ever sacrifice yourself for others (unless it is a life or death situation). When you are worthy of having the best, then and only then will you be able to see others as worthy and deserving. What's the use in giving with a bad attitude? Be happy about giving by being fulfilled first. The funny part about this is that the more you give to yourself, and pass that love on, then the more others will give to you. It works. I am a witness.
