So, your boyfriend proposed to you, huh? For sure, you feel like you're the most beautiful girl on the face of the planet. Traditionally, he would show you a ring and would have to ask those magical words, “Will you marry me?” Firstly, you're going to experienced mixed emotions where feeling happy, sad or even confused comes in. It's really a romantic battle.
Sure, you're excited to be called with his last name but there are some things you have to ponder first before saying “yes” on the altar. Sometimes, we overlooked these important things which would definitely affect your marriage life.
What's My Reason?
Don't ever make a mistake in which you have decided to marry because you want to escape your terrible life. Make sure you, two are getting married for the right reason which is LOVE. No other reasons. If you marry because of money, then it would be like there's no love to nourish between you. You would still end up miserable and would blame yourself in the end.
What Would be Our Status?
Of course, you're not going to marry empty handed. Aside from being emotionally prepared, you, two must be financially prepared also. Talk about your finances and expenses. Where are you going to live? What standard of living? One of the major families nowadays is MONEY. For sure, you knew those stories. Be prepared also because not long from now, you're going to have children which would have to include, of course, expenses.
Family Planning
You may have as many as you want as long as you can love them, be patient enough to them, feed them, send them to school and cover their allowance.
Adjustments
Brace also yourself from marriage because in this phase, you would be getting to know those hidden attitudes of each other. The both of you must be willing to adjust; accept and then get used to it. But if it's below the belt, talk to him about it. Or ask him first, if he still have these secrets he haven't told you yet, if he lied saying none, “then you might get surprised”, on what's more to come.
Am I Ready?
Now, this is the real question. Answer yourself honestly, measure your values, if you think you can handle ALL, then go ahead. However, if you have even a little bit of doubt, then trust your intuition. You might be right!
If you're all positive, then congratulations! Hold each other until your hair is all gray.
