“Clothes Make the Man”
Here we are again, with another step in approaching women successfully.
Dress to Impress
So, last time I discussed what I would consider to be the most important part of approaching a woman - communication. In this article, I'm going to spend a little time going over the differences between men's and women's views on the physical appearance.
What Are We Thinking?
Again, I'm speaking in general terms here, but men tend to range anywhere from the "if it smells clean, wear it" attitude to the "it only has a few small holes and stains" thought. Whereas women tend to view their wardrobe more analytically, choosing their outfits based on which colors go well together, which pieces accentuate their features best, etc. Just as with the communication thing, men should try to meet women in the middle on this. This isn't to say that we all need to go and color coordinate our closets, but perhaps we should consider buying some socks without holes or, well....clean underwear.
Looking Good Helps
The simple fact here is that once we start to be more conscious of our physical appearance and we take steps to improve that appearance, others will notice as well. The reason I'm putting this article after communication is that it's far more important to be able to communicate with women than it is to impress them with your new suits and shiny shoes. Although, a little polish never hurt. And speaking to first impressions, most people are highly influenced by what they see before they process any other information about a person. How often haven't you heard from a friend who just met someone "that guy's so cute" or "she's absolutely gorgeous"? It usually takes a few dates before you might hear your friend say "he's so funny and charming" or "I never realized how smart she is".
Do Some Research
Now I'm not saying you should go bankrupt buying an entirely new line of clothing, but (as is my brother's case) you may want to browse through some fashion magazines or department store ads to see what the handsome male models are wearing. This only takes a few minutes and can give you some ideas of how to put together an outfit that's more attractive to a woman than those pants you've had for six years. And, just because they still fit does not mean it's ok to keep wearing them. Colors fade, clothes wear, fashions change - change with them and stay more current if you want to catch her eye.
Dress Appropriately
It's time now to use a bit of common sense. Depending on where it is you feel comfortable meeting women, your clothing choice will have to match. In other words, don't wear an Armani suit to a biker bar or she'll beat you up. And likewise, don't stroll into an urban coffeshop wearing your leather chaps unless you're trying to make her choke on her scalding hot beverage.
“Body Language”
Besides clothing, it's important to take care of your body as well. You may want to open up that Target ad again and get some ideas as far as cutting your hair, shaving or exercising. I'm not saying you have to become a completely different person just to impress the ladies, but why not improve on what you've already got to offer? You don't have to lose the "real you" - just clean up your image a little. Generally speaking, think of the kind of woman you would like to form a relationship with and then consider all the things she may be looking for in a man and you'll probably find that most of those things are within your power to achieve if you put a little effort into it.
So, now you've got some idea of how to talk to a woman and you're dressing the part, but is there anything else you should consider before making your move? Find out in my next article.
