When a couple has been together for an extended period of time it is easy for the romance to seemingly be gone. There are several things that can be done to preserve the freshness of a relationship. There are also many reasons why the spark dies down. I want to talk about the reasons the fire dies down and then give examples of ways to put the romance back into a relationship.
The most common reason that relationships lose their fizz is boredom. When you have been with a person for more than five years; you tend to learn all of their tricks. You know when they are aroused, when they are angry, as well as how to make them feel those ways. When a person feels they have exhausted the possibilities of exciting escapades with their significant other the boredom sets in.
Another reason that relationships lose their "new car smell" is that both parties tend to get lazy. It is important to remember that what you did to get a person is what you will need to continue to keep that person. For example the gentlemen who buy flowers throughout the courting process and then stop once the vows have been exchanged. Granted the wife doesn't expect flowers daily, but they should nevertheless be purchased on more occasions than Mother's day, her birthday, and anniversaries.
Paying attention to this small detail can make all the difference in the frequency of intimacy. When a woman feels appreciated they are less inclined to have a headache at bed time. Guys are not the only ones who get lazy in a relationship. Ladies who provide their significant others with mountains of physical intimacy and then dramatically decrease to nothing put an unnecessary strain on the relationship as well.
If a woman catches her lover with her feminine wiles then she should never let those wiles die down. Wear a sexy nightgown in exchange for the flannel robe. In a time where both parents tend to work it is difficult to find time to be with one another. I suggest a date night for the couple to ensure a quality night enjoying each other's company. A huge problem that families face is the parents do not have time for one another. When mommy comes home she cooks, cleans while waiting for dinner, and puts on a load of laundry.
By bed time mom is generally pooped. Dad can help out by doing some of these chores with mom. This helps the couple get things done while spending time together. Incorporating the children into this plan will help to build a bond with the parents as well as learn responsibility.
By incorporating some of these helpful tools into your relationship you should begin noticing a new level of intimacy developing between you and your partner. If you are already trying some of these methods and there is still a problem, consider couple's counseling. Seeing a therapist will provide a safe space for both parties to discuss the issues that might be preventing intimacy between them. Until next time; live, love, and be happy.
