If you're going to sleep with someone, please know their history of partners first. I had a friend in college who slept with a guy that she met at a party and she ended up with getting more than she bargained for as a result. Yes, we all have urges, but is "it" really worth your health or life? There's nothing wrong with having intercourse, just use protection and don't spread your legs or your seed to the world.
Sex will not make a guy commit to you. So many females agree to be friends with benefits thinking that if she gives "it" to the guy good then he will want to commit to her eventually. Some women even think that if she sleeps with a guy long enough, that he will commit to her in the long run. Guess what? If a guy is having sex with you without any strings attached then what makes you think that he's not doing the same exact thing with other females?
Guys also please keep in mind that women can do the same things that you do. A girl can play the field just as well as any male. There are women out there who can have a sexual relationship with a guy without being in love.
Contrary to popular belief, a guy has more respect for and would sooner commit to a girl who isn't so free with herself.
In the grand scheme of things, I truly believe that people who have commitment issues will just be with a person to pass the time until they're ready to settle down. As I always say, “Why buy the liquor from the store when you can just take the liquor from the sleeping Hobo on the corner?”.
Also if a girl is sleeping with you, with no strings attached, and she's in love with you and eventually wants to be with you; don't be surprised if one day she gives you the “I'm pregnant talk”. It happens all the time. As they say, desperate times call for desperate measures. And what better way to keep a guy in your life permanently than to have his baby? Even if you guys aren't physically together, a child bonds two people together for life.Women can be very conniving and desperate. Babies are blessings but nowadays they seem to be expendable or a last resort method.
This one happens all the time; if you decide to mess around with a girl/guy who has been in a long term relationship, please know that they won't leave them for you. Even if they do leave them for you, karma is a very funny thing. Chances are the decision that both of you just made to ruin a relationship, will come back to haunt you and them.
People have different conceptions on what they conceive cheating to be. I'm not a cheater so I can't speak on what goes through a person's head. I will say this if a person really loves you, they would never step outside of a good thing. And if you are doing the right things in your relationship then they would never stray in the first place. Once a cheater always a cheater? I don't agree with that statement simply because there is always that one person who can set a loose person on the right path.
When it comes to friends or even people you're in a relationship with; if a person can't understand that you have things you need to focus on then that person or persons don't care about you as much as you think they do. If a person loves you, then they would never deter you from doing what you need to accomplish and they will not prevent you from doing what you love. Support is just as unconditional as love is.
Just because you're in a relationship, it doesn't mean you
need to see the person 24/7. Any married couple will tell you that they treasure the alone time that they have to themselves. Of course marriage and dating are two different things, but one of the best parts about being in a relationship is the anticipation that you feel when you know you're going to see your special someone.
Every couple argues and it's natural. However, there's a limit. If you and your significant other are arguing constantly and they are volatile arguments, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. And bringing a baby into the picture will not help your relationship.
A person will always make time for the people that are most important to them. I don't mean in a physical sense either. There are many ways to reach out to a person and show you care.
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