There comes a time in a relationship when it's time to let go. When things aren't the way they once were; when the respect is gone; when every other conversation is an argument… Relationships are what we use to “try on” different mates, and it's only trial and error, because not every mate we get involved with will be a perfect fit. Here are a few signs to look out for when it seems if the thrill is gone.
- Action: You all have started to exchange more bitter words than sweet.
Explanation: As relationships grow, the extreme kindness used to woo your mate will be suppressed, and terms of endearment may decrease for some couples. However, if ever there comes a time when you find yourself cursing more than you once did, or when you expect an argument, so you're already prepared, it is surely time to let go. This wreaks havoc on you entire being, sometimes causing one or both parties to be in a bad mood, which is obvious to those around you. If all you all do is argue, then maybe that is a signal that you two are really not compatible, despite what you may think. - Action: Your guy seems to be getting more and more possessive.
Explanation: No one wants a dictator-style relationship, at least no real women. Yeah, it is sexy when a man knows when to step up and make a point, but when he wants to dictate every aspect of your life, he needs a dog to train, not his girlfriend. Every relationship has a set of expectations, when these unwritten expectations of respect and consideration are transmitted in the form of hard, fast rules, this can indicate that your guy does not see you two as equals, but himself as your superior. And men are not superior, for we are all humans with feelings. - Action: The future that you imagine does not match his-at all.
Explanation: Some of us are big city people, some of us prefer a small town. Although this doesn't matter very much while you two are young, maybe in high school or college, as you get older, these things are just serious problems. No one should bend on serious things, such as lifestyle, because this will only contribute to unhappiness on behalf of the compromising party. And why be unhappy when you can just eliminate the problem before it starts? Another example could be if he wants a housewife, and you are a workaholic. I mean, he just isn't going to have a happy housewife because you are happy when you are working and earning your own money. Unhappiness is catchy and tends to have lingering effects. Save yourself the drama! - Action: He gets angry really quickly, and even violent.
Explanation: This guy obviously has poor anger management skills, and people who can't effectively handle their anger can become violent. If your guy can throw things and break them, you should be aware that it could only be a matter of time before he inflicts this physical harm upon you. If your guy does things out of anger that frighten you, then maybe you should look for a less-violent dude whom you don't have to be afraid to try to talk to and calm down. An abusive relationship is a bad one, under any circumstances. - Action: His stories, or shall I call them alibis, don't add up.
Explanation: If he told you he was with the boys on Friday night, but when you ask a question about that night/event again, he doesn't know what you're talking about until you remind him, then he's probably a liar. Liars make things up to cover up the truth, and if these lies are coming from your boyfriend, then you should realize that little white lies come from the same people who tell “ginormous” lies-anytime that you aren't telling the truth, you're lying, and a liar once is a liar once again, as soon as the next opportunity presents itself.
