Saying I Love You Without Ever Saying a Word

Where men despair on the lack of a females common sense, I can guarantee you that the lack of common courtesy given to your female half is driving here slowly into insanity.

Examples: Telling other females that they look lovely, sexy, nice, hot (you pick the word), but you can not say that to your woman. (After all she already knows right! Or she no longer has the little body, she is no playboy material after all) Men seems to say what they think and that is often enough painful to listen too. Giving more respect and courtesy to other females then the one they have. The effect is like a mountain being dropped on top of the woman. We want to be the love of your life, the most beautiful woman in your eyes. (Please don't bust our bubbles, some things are better left unspoken. You don't want to hear that you are no longer Superman right?)

Tips to men and woman alike:

Woman NEED to hear from their partners, that they are loved, beautiful, adored, wanted, hot, that they are proud that they belong to their partners. You don't have to do it every day, but it wouldn't hurt if you verbalized it once in a while.

Man NEED to know they are respected! Where a woman needs love and validation, Men need respectand adoration. It wouldn't hurt you one bit, to let your Husband know that he is still your hero. To respect his point of view and let him take the place as the rightful Head of the household. In our family, I run the household (cooking, cleaning, shopping etc.) but he is the Head of the Household. With other words, he can override me at anytime and what he says goes. I am put in charge by him. It was his decision. He trusts me to act on his behalf.

Men and Woman both NEED TO REMEMBER to show appreciation for each other. There is no greater killer in a relationship then when everything is taken for granted. Example: When you go to a Restaurant you thank the Server for bringing you your Order. When was the last time you told your Spouse thank you for bringing you a drink, food or some other item? We compliment a friend for a great meal, but when was the last time you told the cook in your house that she or he did a great job? A heartfelt thank you goes a long way and makes the job a lot easier.

No matter what Gender you are, NEVER EVER let your Partner feel like all they are to you is a Paycheck or a Servant. When that feeling sets in you have a huge problem on your hands. Then the question comes up extremely fast: “Do you love me or am I just a means to an end for you?”

Be GRATEFUL everyday for what you have. We all have horrible habits that drive our Partners nuts. That goes for both Genders, don't think you are so perfect. You are not. Be grateful for the good points your Partner has and enjoy them.

The only person YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO CHANGE IS YOURSELF. You can not change your Partner; if you try you will make him or her miserable. You can learn to look at things differently. You can change your-self, but to force your Partner to change into something he or she is not is like telling them they aren't worth anything the way they are. Learn to love the things your Partner has to offer to you and make the best out of them. You might be surprised how much fun you can have, if not everything has to be strictly your way. By respecting your Partners limitations, without making them feel guilty about them, you will see small miracles happen and some unexpected doors fly wide open.

Remember, that LOVE CHANGES, GROWES, MATURES AND TAKES A LOT OF WORK. Both Partners have to be willing to do their Part. Love only works and grows in a true Partnership. If it is one sided it withers away and dies. Love goes through cycles, there will be days when everything just seems overwhelming and you no longer can see why you love that Person. I have a personal statement when things are going horrible: “I don't like you right now, I don't like you at all, but I still love you!” Sounds stupid right? Not at all, it is a fact, I didn't stop loving my Partner just because he has done something that really hurt my feelings or we are in an argument. I just don't like him or his action at that moment.