Should You Wait for That Special Love?

I recently had a conversation with a friend who has been dating someone for quite a while. She doesn't really feel that her relationship is growing and that ultimately the person she is dating is not" the one." She does however feel that this person will do. The question I pose is, "Should you wait for your one special love or should you settle for what you have?" I personally feel that if you're dating a person for the purpose of finding a lasting love that you should not settle. If a person is just looking for somebody to have a good time with or to pass the time that dating whoever you find appealing is the answer. The problem for individuals who are dating and looking for love is the wait time. We live in a day and age where everything is delivered instantly. If you order a pizza you will have it in 30 minutes or it's free, information can come as fast as your internet connection; there is no reason for people to learn and practice patience. Since people are not trained to understand the concept of delayed gratification; the process of waiting for "that" special person is an extremely difficult task.

When people think about whom they will spend their life with financial stability, employment status, and emotional stability are all determining factors. When women consider why men have difficult times popping the question; the most frequently given reason for waiting is career status and financial stability. These are factors that if taken care of prior to the wedding would help alleviate many problems that occur and ultimately cause relationships to end in divorce. It is important for couples to date long enough for each partner to get to know the other. Rushing into marriage is another reason that many marriages do not make it past the 5 year mark. Waiting for the person who is the right match is worth the time spent. Think of the courting, dating, and engagement period as part of an investment. If you invest in a high risk stock and the value of that stock crashes then you lose a great deal of money. The cost of investing time into a relationship that is has reached a plateau is just like investing in a high risk stock. There is a chance that the relationship may prosper and be long lasting, but there is an even larger risk that the relationship will end in divorce because the two partners were not appropriately matched.

In closing I must reiterate that I definitely think that it is a better choice to wait for that special someone rather than to settle for the one you have. There is a difference between casual dating and even being serial monogamous. If both parties are aware of intentions of the other then there should be no other problems. (Other than those generally experienced by dating couples) Everything in life worth having is worth working for.