As a single man, how many times have you heard that the way to impress a woman is to shower her with compliments? It is probably safe to say that most men have received this advice at some point in their lives.
It is true that you will flatter women using that strategy, but there is a likely chance there will be nothing in it for you. You will probably make the day for a lot of women, but your little black book will look the same as it did before.
If you're a giving person and your only motive is to be a nice guy and give a woman an ego boost, then by all means go for it. However, if you are expecting your flattery will earn you a date, you are probably not going to like your results.
It is interesting that the advice that you should be generous with your compliments often comes from women themselves. They will tell a male relative or friend that he should tell a woman she is pretty, he likes her outfit, etc.
Believe me, I am not implying that this is some kind of vast conspiracy from women. In fact, I genuinely believe their motives are pure, and their hearts are in the right place when they give this kind of advice.
On a conscious level, women who give that advice genuinely believe what they are saying. However, in the real world, the strategy rarely works.
If it did work, a whole bunch of men would be having more success in the romance department. Why? Because most men have tried that approach many times. The results have been tallied, and the evidence indicates it is a failed strategy.
If you are the kind of guy who uses this approach, you will be viewed (even if it's on a subconscious level), as a dime a dozen. What you need to do is stand apart from the crowd.
You should implement a new strategy. How do you do that? Play it cool.
Instead of being the guy who salivates all over women and tells them how beautiful they are, you say absolutely nothing about their appearance. Engage them in a conversation as if they were nothing more than a friend.
By all means, be outgoing and charming. However, don't mention one word about how you would love the privilege of having a date with them, or how attractive they are.
Apply this new strategy and there is a much better chance the women you approach will be more intrigued by you. They are so used to all these men telling them how good they look and using cheesy lines, that you can stand out by doing just the opposite.
By playing the part of the cool, calm, and collected guy, you are going to appear as the mystery man. You are going to have the heads of these women spinning in an attempt to figure out what you think of them.
Don't be surprised if some women make subtle (or not so) attempts to get an indicator for your opinion of their appearance. If they do, don't take the bait.
For example, they might say something like “I just tried some new hair color, but I'm not sure if I like it or not.” In a scenario such as this, your response should be something vague like “keep trying different colors until you're happy with the result.”
If you have tried things the old way and your dating life is still stale, common sense dictates you try something new. Playing it cool is a good, fresh place to start.
