Six Reasons for Being Alone

I do not see that being alone should be taken as a disadvantage if you consider that so many couples fall in and out of relationships these days. It no longer means you are going to live like a priest or monk as it might have made people think back in the old country. Being alone should never be confused with being lonely. You could be with someone for an entire life and find that in the end you wanted to live by yourself.

Here are some reasons then why young adults decide on living alone:

1. There are a great many children that decide that couple life is not for them, they feel a calling for something greater than loving another human being, especially when they know that much of the matchmaking is only temporary. We would like to think we live forever on this earth and there are singles out there who want to transcend that sea of being temporary before life as we know it actually ends.
2. Pundits of couple living who may say living alone is antisocial and not conducive to man's true nature are right in a way but not completely because each person is free to decide on how he spends the rest of his life. If one person in a couple decided that his/her mate was not what they had bargained for, it is understandable why they decide to each go their own way. That may happen years after being together. Man must remember that it is he who attributes words like antisocial when it comes to characterizing social behaviour that is counter current or challenges established views. There may be nothing antisocial in leaving somebody that you do not get along with and staying alone.
3. Then there are those who don't want to live with a mate because they feel that they cannot share or do not want to share their real selves or because they have difficulty being intimate. This may be because they never learned intimate behaviour from their parents or because their parents might have separated at an early age and they did not have a chance to see how couples can work through thick and thin. But there are plenty of examples out there of children who have decided on living alone even though their parents lived happily together.
4. Even still there are still traditional values around where separating from whom you decided to live with is frowned on. So there are whole populations of people who will not live with a potential mate unless they are certain that person is their match. Family pressures might influence this behaviour but it may be the choice of the person himself.
5. Students may not want to couple before they know what kind of security their future will hold. This type of behaviour is common in all parts of the world where the individual faces a higher education or travels abroad and then incurs expenses, which makes him think more of money, education and future prospects and less of who he can meet to challenge the difficulties imposed by life.
6. Some people decide on taking care of their elderly parents before going on to creating a life for themselves. This might be a double-edged sword because taking care of a parent is not the same thing as investing in your own future and often counters the person's efforts in establishing an independent lifestyle. The parent might consciously or unconsciously retard the ability of the son or daughter to make decisions on making those steps to deciding on a future with a person who they can create a life with.