These are 11 Things you should know. If you answer yes to most of the statements and questions below, then you are. Please be honest with yourself, if you are not honest with yourself who else can you be honest with?
If female are you in your mid to late 20s? If male are you in your early 30s? At this age you would have had the opportunity to live life and have healthy experiences so that when you settle down, you do not feel like you are missing your youth. So use the time well, travel meet people, explore cultures, just have fun. You only live once.
Do you know who you truly are, not who you pretend to be to everyone else but who you are? Only then will you attract the person who is your true mate. In other words, Always be Yourself.
Are you happy within yourself? Contrary to what most people think other people cannot bring you happiness, you have to find happiness for yourself and it is usually a burden on others when this responsibility is put on them
Have you achieved wholeness in yourself? There are enough troubles within a relationship to bring in baggage. If possible deal with it before getting into the relationship. If you are unable to deal with it, be upfront about it. It is unfair to burden someone else with complex issues, let them know what they are getting into. It is not right to have a comeback of but “I thought you loved me, if you really loved me, you would accept that I used to be a axe murderer!” A bit extreme but I think you get the point.
Accept that in a relationship there will be compromises, remember most of us have lived with siblings for years and still fight with them how much more a brand new mate who mostly will be like a stranger by comparison
Know when to fight your battles. You do not always have to have your own way. Unless the relationship is a dictatorial one in which case it is not a healthy relationship and you or the victim should flee as quickly as possible.
Appreciate the times when you are single. It allows you to be free of the considerations, compromises and couple related issues. You can do things with whomever you want, whenever you want and in whichever way you want.
Do not ever go below your standard for a mate irrespective of your age, peer pressure, societal pressure or even family pressure. Whomever your mate is, they must be able to relate to you at the most fundamental level of who you are and what you stand for, anything else is asking for trouble. My advise - no compromises on this one.
Realize that in every relationship, you love the person for their faults because most of their good traits are probably adorable but it is those faults that you can stand and the next person cannot that make both of you compatible. In other words, one man's ceiling is another man's floor. What you can stand about one person another would find it unbearable.
If you decide to marry please and please attend marriage-counseling sessions, most places of worship offer them. This is very important because there are many issues, which can easily be overlooked until it is too late. It is easy even for the most matured of us to assume that “They lived happily ever after” is the end of that story but real life tells us otherwise. Attend marriage counseling before the journey starts to reduce the possibility of needing one when you have started the journey and turning back is impossible.
Finally, every relationship is unique, do not compare yours with another's, there are things your partner will do for you that the other person's partner will not do for you and that makes it work for both of you
I guess you've set the standard pretty high though. The majority of people might not qualify.