Soul Mates

Many people look for love in all the wrong places, and end up getting hurt in return. For some, love comes and goes, and offers no stability or commitment. Settling is a common theme now-a-days with individuals. For women, especially, they feel their biological clock is ticking and need to do something quick, fast, and in a hurry. They tend to meet someone who doesn't offer the characteristics and qualifications they are really looking for. They fall in love because they find some “good” within the person to override what they feel the person is lacking. Once they have fallen in love, it's pretty much a wrap from there. They will either get married and then have children, or have children, then get married. For men, they just pretty much don't always know what the devil they are looking for. As long as she's somewhat of a “trophy”, they're good. At the same time, there are men that are extremely choosy. They want a woman that will be a good mate, friend, mother to their children, educated, and down to earth. There are many men as well as women who would like for there spouse or mate to have acquired some type of schooling, good work history, be mannerly and respectful.

More times than others, these characteristics become overlooked because the individual is in a rapid search for a significant other. The one bad thing about settling is it's not what you really want. When you settle, you find yourself with someone you didn't really want to be with, or find that the other person cannot completely satisfy you.

Since we have established that much let me ask an important question. Do you believe that soul mates are realistic or just a fantasy? I want you to really think long and hard about that before you continue reading. Some people say they have found their soul mate, or that destiny or fate led them to their {ideal} soul mate. Really? Do you really believe there is someone out there for everyone? What if we never encounter one another? Then, are we to never find our soul mates in this lifetime, and just be stuck with some random mediocre individual? Maybe the afterlife will be more advantageous for you. That can't possibly be fair! If there's this so-called ideal person for everyone then you should be able to connect with them while you're living, or at least have the chance to see them. Maybe there isn't a “soul mate” for everyone; there are just individuals who will tolerate us for our living days.

When people marry, more times than others, they marry someone that they come to find out is not there equal or they have nothing in common. That then may lead to the theory that opposites attract. How can someone that is completely opposite you, be attractive and worthwhile? Or, this person was not really your soul mate in the first place. So, do you stay, or go on yet another long, drawn out search for that “perfect” person?

From my own personal observations, and experience, sometimes opposites do attract. You can meet someone that at first, you weren't really interested in until you actually held a conversation with them. The conversation can be one that totally captivates and intrigues you. At this point, you may start to think of other possibilities with this person. One thing leads to another, and then you're trapped! You have opened yourself up to something that you may or may not have been ready for. This may lead to the end of your soul mate search, because then, you feel you have found the person that is “right” for you. But, are they really the one for you? Is your proclaimed soul mate supposed to complete you or make you whole?

There are people out there who compliment each of our personalities and that leads to some magically morphed chemistry in our souls. This in turn is not such a bad thing. You link up with someone that becomes your friend first, and then your lover and mate. You click. There's this unique connection between the two of you that can't be explained. Although you two may have connected in some bizarre or ironic way, does that automatically mean that that person is the best one for you? It can be no doubt about it. Depending on how the two of you met, there may be some issues that are cause for discussion before things get too deep. Can you work through any of these issues? Sure you can. If you are willing to commit yourselves to one another and venture into the endless levels of the dungeons of love, then it can.