This question is a sneaky way of asking if they have kids.
What this Answer will Reveal:
This one's pretty straightforward. If you want kids and they say they don't have any but would love to someday, score! On the other hand, if they don't want children and you do its game over for you. This is one instance where people generally never change their mind once it's been made up. Don't be fooled into thinking otherwise.
If they tell you they have children, then at least at this point you have a say in whether you could become a step-parent if things turn out to be long term between you.
What's the Most Important thing you Own?
Finding out what's important to them will give you an insight into what type of person they are and also give you the opportunity to see if you enjoy any of the same things like say rock climbing or dancing.
What this Answer will Reveal:
If they mention something materialistic such as a possession like shoes, saying that they are all designer, it is for you to decide if you want to end up with a Carrie Bradshaw. If it's a man who's obsessed with shoes, sister, you should be worried as what girl wants to date a guy who knows more about shoes than her. If they say it's their pet dog, you will know if you like dogs and taking them for walks or not. But don't be too quick to judge here by their initial answer as they may simply be nervous and attempting a joke.
If they say they are most proud of something similarly important to you, then you're probably dealing with someone worthy of further consideration. Opposites may attract, but it's kind of hard to have a relationship with someone when you have zilch in common.
Where do you See Yourself in Five Years?
Another tough one, because who can really predict where our paths will lead us in the future? There are people though who plan their careers and the rest of their lives with precision and who know where they are going and what they are doing every step of the way. This question lets you know if your “date” is someone like that.
Or, this question can be treated as a bit of fun, showing you the fun side of your “date.”
What this Answer will Reveal:
This one will tell you if they have thought out their future beyond what they're doing next weekend, as well as giving you an insight into their personality. It could indicate that this person is ambitious or aimless, or whether they are likely to be spontaneous or to be someone who plans everything in meticulous detail. It's for you to decide what type of person you want to be with. Both personality types have their pluses and negatives.
What do you do For Fun?
Throw this question in the mix to ease some of the interviewing tension and allow that other person to show you the real them.
What this Answer will Reveal:
Fun has many interpretations. For instance, if this other person says they like to stay home and read or knit quilts, but you like to go ice-climbing or wrestle alligators on your down time, you can expect to run into some problems when planning activities together. However, if the reply is that they love trying out new restaurants or new recipes at home and you happen to be of the same inclination, this could be one happy match.
What do you do For Work?
Everyone's got to do something to earn a crust. The question is, are they happy doing it or are they resentful and bitter about their lot in life? Similarly, finding out what they do for a living can give you a good indication of whether they are fulfilled in their professional life or are just looking for someone to come along and take them away from all the drudgery.
What this Answer will Reveal:
Have your previous relationships fallen by the wayside because the other person or you were too focussed on their career? If that's the case then maybe you need to find someone who is the opposite way to the one that caused all the problems.
For instance, it's a well known fact that two people who concentrate on their careers, can't put enough time and energy into their relationship when they are having to “look for an opening in my diary” to allocate time to spend with their loved one. Perhaps then it's better if one career obsessed individual dates someone who isn't as career orientated. Or maybe, it's the person who's too into their career who needs to change.
Is Sexual Compatibility Important to You?
Well, when isn't it really? Still, as you probably want to have a fun and honest degree of communication with your potential partner about this subject, it never hurts to broach the topic and see where their answers and conversation lead. After all, unless you just don't like sex (and hey there are people who don't), you're going to want some degree of sexual compatibility.
What this Answer will Reveal:
They may say something like “I'm saving myself for my wedding night” or may simply blush and start looking at their shoes, but this is a question that has to be asked. For many people, being in a relationship means having sex.
On the other hand, if its not shyness that's the problem and they start going on about S&M and the thought of being tied up terrifies you, it's time to press that “NEXT” bell.
What do you Look for in a Boyfriend/Husband?
This is the ultimate wrap-up question that will give you a fair inkling as to what they think of you and whether you fit the bill for what they are looking for.
This is your “date's” chance to clarify what they want and your opportunity to see if here before you, is someone you want to get to know better.
What this Answer will Reveal:
By now, you will have already gotten a pretty good idea about the woman or man in front of you. Their answer to this question should really be a confirmation or dismissal of any fears you may be harbouring about him or her.
Now that you're armed and ready with questions for the speed-dating scene, get out there. Remember to trust your gut instinct. Finding Mr or Mrs Right is not an exact science, but when you've met the right person you will know. I did.
