There is a small percentage of men on this planet that fall into a certain category. The men in this category are difficult to understand because they are not your typical men: they do not have casual no-strings sex and they don’t play mind games. They won’t see other women while claiming to be monogamous and they won’t wait a set amount of time before calling you. They won’t hurt you and they won’t cheat. But, don’t be fooled – these men are far from perfect.
We all have a certain package in mind when we are on the look-out for the ideal man. Some attributes might include sensitivity, consideration, a romantic nature, a sense of humour, intelligence. We’d ideally like them to be emotionally available and know how to treat a woman. But when this supposedly ideal package comes along, sometimes it’s not such a good thing.
Introducing the ‘I Love You’ men. These men are a rare and disturbing breed. From the moment you meet, he will have this almost fantastical view of you; you will be his perfect woman and he’ll never be able to get enough. From the very first date, he will be gooey eyed for you, say all the right things and treat you like a lady. But very early on, red flags begin to pop-up here, there and everywhere.
Some warning signs include him calling constantly from the first day he has your number: he won’t call or text twice a week, but more like twice a day. And heaven forbid he gets your email address; your inbox will be full to bursting of sweet nothings, suggestions for romantic dates and ‘I miss you’ messages. This would be a good thing if you were falling for him and if you had been in a relationship for a long time, but that isn’t the case. Very early on, this man becomes too full-on and then comes the biggest warning sign of all: he says ‘I love you’.
Under any other circumstances, these three words could mean the world to you but, more often than not, these words come too early – weeks into the relationship, if you’re lucky: days into the relationship, if you have an especially bad one. And the strangest and most difficult to understand aspect of this is that he actually means it. He’s not saying it to get you into bed or to win you over. He says it because he genuinely believes he’s in love with you and – wait for it – wants to spend his life with you.
Don’t get me wrong – there are women out there who are like this, too. But the men are worse. And it becomes a battle. You will find that he is far too available, far too extreme, too eager to make something appear between the two of you that could never be, but when you come to break things off, he simply won’t understand. He’ll be heartbroken, like he has lost the love of his life, and he’ll convince himself he can win you back. He will never take the hint and, more often than not, it can only end in harsh words and barring his calls. Sad but true. The I Love You men are a nightmare wrapped in ribbons and bows.
So, if ever you meet a man who looks at you like you make the world light up and you don’t feel the same way, have a long, hard think before accepting a dinner date or even handing him your phone number; he may very well be one of the rare breeds and you should always keep your distance or you may very well end up as an object of obsession!
